(Closed) bees with children WWYD?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

It would depend on how old my kid is and how far away the bachelor party was.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

what she said ^

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Working mother of 3 here. I would love to travel and a night away would be fun, but probably not a possibility (unless it was close enough where I could drive home that night). I would politely decline and offer a night of dinner and drinks on me before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a nearly 2 year old. I would absolutely stay overnight, like a day and a half total, for a good friend or family member’s bach party. 4 or so times a year I seem to have had girlfriend overnight plans. 2 nights would be too much. That makes it tricky with a lot of 2 night minimum stays.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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BeeutifulBee:  It’s not only leaving the kids with my husband, but also time and cost factor. I wouldn’t do a multi-night bachelorette for anyone.

I’d consider overnight for a very good friend. I’d have to be done breastfeeding, i.e. (approximately) past the child’s first birthday.

But it depends what you circle of friends are into. In the end you (or the MOH) will need to ask them. Also, a note of caution, it is generally frowned upon to organise your own bachelorette unless you’re paying your share.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would try to make it happen if I could. It would depend a lot on the specific timing, which will vary from family to family. (E.g. will Darling Husband be out of town for work, is it a kid’s or parent’s birthday that weekend, is it a busy time of year for me at work, have I already spent my quota of time/money on travel that year, etc.) But if possible, I would try to come, especially since you seem thoughtful about it.

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Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

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BeeutifulBee:  I didn’t feel comfortable leaving Dear Daughter overnight until she was 15 months old. She weaned at 11 months old, and I definitely wouldn’t have left her overnight while she was BFing. I’ve only gone on 2 short trips away with Darling Husband since Dear Daughter was born, and she’ll be 2 in November. No offense, but I wouldn’t really want to use a few days away for a bachelorette party, overnight would be my max.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Wow, I havenot logged on in a long time. My baby is 3 and 1/2 months ols now and I feel no where near ready to leave her forthe night. Maybe around 6 or 7 months, if its just for one night and I have family watching her. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think it depends on your friends.  Why not have a discussion with everyone.  Invite them over and  have information and cost for both options, so they can make an informed choice.  You might be suprised who would not mind getting away.  If you have friend’s who may go along just because, then have an anonymous ballot box, so people can be truthful about their feelings. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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aussiemum1248:  May I ask you….besides breast feeding and stuff (if you kid is weened) whats’s wrong with leaving the kids with the husband? Is he not capable? I am just wondering

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If I could swing it with daddy or one of the grandmas then a night away sounds good to me… I don’t get out much, so it would be a real treat. 

The only thing that would really deter me would be a nursing or sick child. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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KingsDaughter:  Like I said, time and cost. Money I think is obvious, but there’s also a time cost because I come back to a backlog of things to do. Yes I know Darling Husband tries, but he still leaves me thing do. So I come back tired, and with a bunch of stuff to do. It’s also quite an imposition on my husband. All that adds up to: I won’t go on a weekend without Darling Husband and young kids – especially if it’s expensive – unless it’s something I really, really want to do. Not with a bunch of the bride’s friends, some of whom I may not even know well.

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