Post # 1
i love to travel, so I would love to travel somewhere with a group of friends for my bachelorette . But…a lot of the people I would invite have kids and I would think it’s harder for them to get away.
what would you do if a close friend or family member invited you to travel for her bachelorette?
other options are doing airbnb and having a night in the city. Would you be ok staying one night away from your kids?
i wanna have as much fun as possible this night but I also want to be considerate of all the moms. I want to make sure those close to me are able to attend.
Post # 2
It would depend on how old my kid is and how far away the bachelor party was.
Post # 4
Working mother of 3 here. I would love to travel and a night away would be fun, but probably not a possibility (unless it was close enough where I could drive home that night). I would politely decline and offer a night of dinner and drinks on me before the wedding.
Post # 5
I have a nearly 2 year old. I would absolutely stay overnight, like a day and a half total, for a good friend or family member’s bach party. 4 or so times a year I seem to have had girlfriend overnight plans. 2 nights would be too much. That makes it tricky with a lot of 2 night minimum stays.
Post # 6
It’s not only leaving the kids with my husband, but also time and cost factor. I wouldn’t do a multi-night bachelorette for anyone.
I’d consider overnight for a very good friend. I’d have to be done breastfeeding, i.e. (approximately) past the child’s first birthday.
But it depends what you circle of friends are into. In the end you (or the MOH) will need to ask them. Also, a note of caution, it is generally frowned upon to organise your own bachelorette unless you’re paying your share.
Post # 7
at what age would you feel ok leaving overnight (1hr away) or on a trip for a few days?
if it’s in the city it would be about an hour away for those that don’t live in the city. So def can go home if they decide to come along but not stay the night.
I would only plan for a night in the city, I know I can easily find a place without a minimum night stay. I’m hoping this will be most of the responses I get.
Post # 8
I know cost is always something to consider, children or not. I think the smallest child will be about 6mo. My sisters baby, while I don’t expect her to do as I wish, I know she’s one that will def do her best at being there for me If she can.
also, I most def plan on paying my share. I don’t plan on having Bridesmaid or Best Man so I’m not expecting anyone to plan my bachelorette for me Let alone pay for it as well.
Post # 9
I would try to make it happen if I could. It would depend a lot on the specific timing, which will vary from family to family. (E.g. will Darling Husband be out of town for work, is it a kid’s or parent’s birthday that weekend, is it a busy time of year for me at work, have I already spent my quota of time/money on travel that year, etc.) But if possible, I would try to come, especially since you seem thoughtful about it.
Post # 10
I didn’t feel comfortable leaving Dear Daughter overnight until she was 15 months old. She weaned at 11 months old, and I definitely wouldn’t have left her overnight while she was BFing. I’ve only gone on 2 short trips away with Darling Husband since Dear Daughter was born, and she’ll be 2 in November. No offense, but I wouldn’t really want to use a few days away for a bachelorette party, overnight would be my max.
Post # 11
Wow, I havenot logged on in a long time. My baby is 3 and 1/2 months ols now and I feel no where near ready to leave her forthe night. Maybe around 6 or 7 months, if its just for one night and I have family watching her.
Post # 12
I think it depends on your friends. Why not have a discussion with everyone. Invite them over and have information and cost for both options, so they can make an informed choice. You might be suprised who would not mind getting away. If you have friend’s who may go along just because, then have an anonymous ballot box, so people can be truthful about their feelings.
Post # 13
May I ask you….besides breast feeding and stuff (if you kid is weened) whats’s wrong with leaving the kids with the husband? Is he not capable? I am just wondering
Post # 14
If I could swing it with daddy or one of the grandmas then a night away sounds good to me… I don’t get out much, so it would be a real treat.
The only thing that would really deter me would be a nursing or sick child.
Post # 15
Like I said, time and cost. Money I think is obvious, but there’s also a time cost because I come back to a backlog of things to do. Yes I know Darling Husband tries, but he still leaves me thing do. So I come back tired, and with a bunch of stuff to do. It’s also quite an imposition on my husband. All that adds up to: I won’t go on a weekend without Darling Husband and young kids – especially if it’s expensive – unless it’s something I really, really want to do. Not with a bunch of the bride’s friends, some of whom I may not even know well.