(Closed) Bees with colorful shoes: do your shoes match your BM dresses? should they?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My girls are wearing dark purple dresses.. my shoes are also purple, but not the exact same shade of purple. But that’s fine with me.. I was happy to just find purple shoes. I don’t think they have to match exactly.. I made sure to have different shades of purple through out the wedding so they’ll all look fine together.

Post # 4
2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wear whatever shoes you want!  I had canary-yellow shoes and my BMs had brown dresses.  We did have a fall theme, so the shoes did fit in, but I don’t think they need to be white/ivory or match your BMs dresses.


Post # 5
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My shoes are bright blue and my bridesmaids dresses will be “hot pink.”

Post # 6
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bostongirl27:  Nah. Think of how often they will be showing? When you show them to the photographer? When he takes the garter off? How oftern will they be in full site with your bridesmaids in the shot?

And even if they are….seriously…it doesn’t matter 🙂 If you love them – then don’t worry what Grandma thinks. I promise it will be fine.

Post # 7
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think the shift to wearing colorful shoes, and shoes that match details from your wedding is a newer trend. Older and more traditional folks will typically say you should wear white or ivory shoes. 

But like you, I simply couldn’t see myself wearing white shoes or ivory shoes. I even looked into champagne colored shoes but it wasn’t me. Even though you’re the bride and even if you like the traditional style that others have chosen, you are still an individual. 

I wear pumps almost everyday in all kinds of colors. I know I can literally run in them because they are so comfortable to me. I couldn’t see myself wearing a slingback, peep toe shoe, or something white. I had to have a pair of shoes that made me excited to wear them. 

I chose a pair of coral pumps. They coordinate with my bridesmaids dresses but don’t directly match.  My shoes are SO me. 

Wear what makes you feel comfortable. Don’t worry about what other people think you should do. 



Post # 8
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Mine didn’t.  Well my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were navy and my shoes were a medium blue.  But I bought the shoes way before I even had colors in mind.  I bought them because I liked them without any consideration for how they would look with the rest of the wedding.  Then again, I never had the idea in my head that I should coordinate with the wedding.

Post # 9
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@suburbian:  +1! I say wear what you want! My wedding planner, though, wanted me to purchase some red shoes for this photo shot and I was completely against. I can understand not having the exact same shade of purple or blue but the red didn’t tie in with ANYTHING (colors are coral, peach and blush; theme is more springish-ranch style). I had purchased ivory shoes a year ago (before I even purchased the dress!) but then I recently wanted the color shoe. So I just purchased coral shoes. The height is a little off with the dress (hem was measured with 3 1/4 in shoes in mind and my coral shoes are 4 1/4!!!) but I don’t think no one will notice. I’m really wearing the color ones for picture purposes anyways. I can change shoes.

Post # 10
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

No. My bridesmaids wore grey and my colours were grey/chartreuse/cream. I wore red shoes.  But dh also wore a red uniform. 

Post # 11
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@bostongirl27:  My shoes are being dyed to match my Bridesmaid or Best Man, but technically they don’t have to. Any colour would really be fine, its what you like best, even if it was a completely different one 🙂

Post # 12
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Do whatever you want! (My wedding/life motto, lol). My shoes were bright royal blue, my girls’ dresses were navy. If I had felt like wearing bright pink shoes though, I would have (I just like blue, there’s a reason my color scheme was shades of blue, lol).


Ps I had a floorlength gown and other than in the details photos, my shoes hardly showed. They are semi-seen in a couple photos, that’s it, after all my searching and searching and headaches over my shoes, nobody even commented on them all night, because they didn’t really see them!

Post # 13
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - Four Rivers Environmental Center

My shoes are turquoise, and my bridesmaids are in a teal color, so I am guessing they will be a bit darker than the shoes!


Post # 14
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My BM’s dresses and my shoes do match (Royal Blue). However, I didn’t even really consider that they were matching when I picked each of them out. I definitely don’t think they have to match at all. Wear what you want!

Like PP’s said, how often are your shoes and the BM’s dresses going to be in the same picture? I also doubt anyone will look at a picture like that and be appalled that the dresses and your shoes don’t match.

Post # 15
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine matched but I dont think it reallly matters? No one even sees your shoes except in pictures or if you are wearing a shorter dress. I wore mine for the ceremony and pics and then switched to silver glitter toms! haha


Below is the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress my girls wore and my shoe. 🙂


Post # 16
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@TaurianDoll:  cutest shoes ever!!!

i don’t think they need to match, but it’s a bonus if they do lol. mine will probably end up being in the same color family as the colors of the wedding, but i’m not going to pass up perfect shoes if they don’t match.

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