Bees with depression or anxiety, what do you do for a living?

posted 1 month ago in Career
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I work in construction as a customer service manager. I also own my own construction company on the side for a specific line of work. I have been in customer service so long that customers don’t phase me at all and I’m really quite skilled with taking an angry person from 60 back to 0. The hard part for me is when I work really hard, and I get micromanaged by an overbearing and cranky boss, or I get negative comments constantly when they are not warranted from bosses/colleagues. That makes me really miss my last boss who was sadly replaced- he was he best boss I ever had and almost like a second father to me. I think that positive feedback is one of the best things a boss can give an employee, it costs nothing and it has a great effect on everyone. Being micromanaged and nit picked does NOT help my anxiety/depression- especially when I am doing my best. I totally feel you Bee- my boss is doing similar things and I am afraid to speak up. I am so sorry you’re going through that.

 The customers honestly do not bother me much at all- I actually have some really incredible ones who make my day. Those are more rare, but they are appreciated when they come! I just recently got diagnosed with depression and I have had panic attacks sporadically for a few years. I tried a medication that had bad side effects and just recently switched to a new one. I am hopeful for it to not have the side effects of the last! At work I have learned to be positive with my trusted colleagues that are allies, those ones are like my family, and if I am having a bad day or vice versa, they can always cheer me up like I would for them. I think that getting the right treatment is key as well as having the support of your closest friends and family. I have also learned to take time for self care, I know that sounds cliche but that is so important. That has really helped me immensely. I hope you are well bee and if you ever need a friend to talk to please reach out. πŸ’•

Post # 47
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Bumble bee

queenbatgirl :  I teach, mostly working with SEN students. At times it’s a struggle and I feel I really don’t have it in me or the energy. At times I need 5 minutes in the bathroom to regather myself to continue. But there is times where they pick up my mood. They will say or do little things that make my day. 

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

queenbatgirl :  yeah I totally hear you- I feel very discouraged when my boss does this. It is really unnecessary as well, I could be right down the hall at my desk and she sends a scathing email rather than come and talk to me in person. I hate when bosses commit “assumacide” as I call it and they assume negative intent. My last boss was like a second father to me and I don’t ever remember there being a time I felt put down or micromanaged by him. I was so sad when he was let go, everyone in the office was. I actually cried in my office with my colleague at the time who was also crying. Why is it that good bosses get the short end of things?? Anyway, this boss issue of mine has NOT helped with my anxiety I already am trying to deal with. There are some days where she is really nice but it isn’t consistent. I hate the Jeckyll and Hyde thing….I think I have my depression mostly under control but I am just struggling with the side effects of the last medication tapering off. 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Greenspot Farms

I’m a teacher. I also have anxiety and depression. It is SO hard! This is only my 2nd year and I’m at a new school. The work environment here is pretty toxic and I think that makes a huge different. I liked my job a lot more last year because my admin were so much more supportive. 

 

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I have anxiety and I’m an attorney. Which is just hilarious. In a very disturbing way.

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I have GAD and the occasional depressive episode and am a lawyer.  Weirdly, I actually think the anxiety benefits me in my workplace — it causes me to obsess over detail and I often pick up on evidence or arguments that my peers didn’t.

Post # 54
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Blushing bee

ImMrsSnow :  Man. I survived that environment as a social worker for about hmm… 6 weeks. I couldn’t do it. It was either the job or me. Found a different facility and now I am sooo much happier.

 

I don’t have depression (unless situational occassionally) but I do have pretty severe anxiety when my work environment is toxic. It’s much more manageable in an environment that actually values me and what I do. 

Post # 55
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Busy bee

I suffer from anxiety as well. I am an accountant. I worked in public accounting for the first 3 years of my career and it was awful! Long hours and just shitty people. I now work for the governement doing similiar work but my work enviroment is less stressful. I also have been seeing a therapist for the past 6 years which helps when I feel anxious.

Post # 56
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

queenbatgirl :  I work in fundraising as well and I deal with anxiety, occasional panic attacks, etc.

First of all, it sounds like your boss is awful. And most non-profits aren’t large enough to have an HR person to go to with issues. But at a university you might have an HR department? The comments from your boss are not at all professional or helpful to the work environment.  EDIT: I just saw the post that you are having a meeting with HR. That’s a great first step.

Secondly, most nonprofits are understaffed and overworked. Work environments get stressful. Seriously they do. But if you like fundraising, you can find a place that suits you. There are gems out there with good work life balance and bosses that raise you up rather than tear you down.

Thirdly, the university advancement system tends to be very institutionalized. Maybe you need to switch to a non-profit organization in a sector you truly care about – such as animals, environment, arts, etc. I’ve found have less micromanaging when working with places like this.

If you’re not truly enjoying the fundraising aspect of it, there’s so much out there you could do! Though I won’t be much help in identifying that. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 58
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Busy bee

queenbatgirl :  Thank you.  That simple comment just brought me to tears.  

Post # 59
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Busy bee

Attorney..and to top it off, I do complex commercial disputes. 

I enjoy the work but not the neurotic loser bosses who treat their employees like punching bags and say that they’re helping them become “resilient”   

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