Bees with diamonds! Did you go natural or lab (and your age?)

posted 10 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
34 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

Currently 31, hubs is 34. Married 5 yrs ago with a 1.32 natural cushion. Wanted an upgrade for our 5 year/push present/birthday (all are close in range). Looked at lab/moissy but I couldn’t find one I loved even though the pricing was far better. Decided to trade my 1.32 for another natural cushion at 2.25. Couldn’t be happier with it! 

Post # 17
3608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m almost 50 and have a mined diamond. When I got married, lab diamonds weren’t as easily available. I’d probably go with lab diamond next time around because I see no reason to pay more to get pretty much the same thing. 

Post # 18
2247 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

34. Engaged at 26… I think? Married at 27 so I think that’s right. He went with natural diamond but I wanted a mossanite. They’re so beautiful. I still want one! I love my rings though. 

Post # 19
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021 - Boulder, Colorado

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@LiliKitty:  I really want a moissanite one day too! They look amazing and I’ve heard that they stay clear for longer without needing to be cleaned as much as diamonds do.

Post # 20
807 posts
Busy bee

Over 40, married 13 years, upgraded my e-ring twice, all natural/mined diamonds.  I’m old enough to remember when CZ was all the rage and folks were forking out big bucks (granted, hugely discounted vs. diamond prices) for a product that ultimately became virtually worthless.  While I am not suggesting lab grown diamonds will go the way of CZ, their pricing is still very unstable and continues to drop as more and more of them hit the market.  While natural diamond pricing fluctuates a bit, their value remains fairly stable despite the introduction of various alternatives over the years, including lab growns.  Many lab growns also have nuances not seen in mined diamonds (blue nuance, strain lines, phosphorescence, etc.).  Once pricing stabilizes and those issues are hammered out, I’ll probably be more on board with lab growns.  I am by no means anti-lab grown and I certainly can appreciate the appeal, they just aren’t “there” for me yet.

Post # 21
139 posts
Blushing bee

I’m 33, and I have a lab diamond.  I considered a natural diamond but I was worried about the cost and my husband was very much wanting to get me a forever ring, not a ring I would want to update one day.  So he found a brick and mortar store that could order in lab stones and he got to choose one in person from them.

Post # 22
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

While I do think there’s a big trend toward moissanite/lab diamonds, I don’t see it as much in my area/circle yet.

I think part of the reason that diamonds are getting bigger is because people are marrying later and later. The average person is more established in their career and can likely afford to spend more on a ring than the average person could in the past. There’s also not always the immediate expense of a place to live. I know that many people today are saving up to buy a home, but when my parents got married in the 1970s they had to immediately plunk down cash to rent an apartment, furnish a home, etc. and people today are often already living together. 

Post # 23
2043 posts
Buzzing bee

Engaged at 44 with a second hand CZ ring that cost the equivalent of $115 USD at current exchange rates.  Upgrades aren’t really a thing where I come from (I literally don’t know a single person who has done this), so resale value is irrelevant as I expect to have my e-ring for life.  And I didn’t want anything that cost much more than this as I’d just be worried about losing or damaging it all the time! 

Post # 24
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Oak Brook, IL

Engaged at 28 with a 2.5 ct. mined diamond. I’m more traditional and didn’t want a lab created stone. I like the subtle imperfections of my natural stone, and I wanted the ring DH proposed with to be my forever ring. 

Post # 25
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2021

I am 22 and considered a lab diamond at first. However, I have no personal experience with them and they haven’t been around long enough for me to know the integrity of them even though they are chemically and physically the same I just have trust issues with stuff I havent experienced myself. We went with the natural mined diamond because for our price range I could only get .2 carat bigger and it wasn’t worth the risk for me. Another thing is maybe it’s just my family/close friends but we all looked at each other’s GIA certificate’s to make sure we got a quality stone for a good price so if my parents/grandma/sister saw that it was a lab stone then I would have to explain to them what it is and potentially have them call my diamond fake which I agree it’s not fake. 

Post # 26
1766 posts
Buzzing bee

Got engaged in my early 30’s – hubby gave me a 1 carat natural diamond.  Now in my 40’s and hubby gave me a new ring this year with a bigger diamond – also a natural diamond.  Love them both so much!

Post # 27
576 posts
Busy bee

First engagement (28) was a 1.5 carat round natural diamond in a halo 

Second engagement (34) is a 2.5 carat oval lab diamond on a simple thin band. 

Post # 28
12307 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

41 now, 30 when engaged, natural diamond.   To me lab diamonds are cheaper, but still not cheap per se so not something I would want to spend money on.  If I buy a synthetic or lab stone, I want it to be a few hundred, not over a grand. 

Post # 29
762 posts
Busy bee

I got engaged at 29. My SO picked out the ring – it is a 0.71 ct Canadian mined diamond in recycled platinum. The jeweler he picked also offers Moissanite and lab diamonds, but after his consultation with her, my SO preferred the Canadian diamond based on the look and the GIA certification.

I had told him I was open to both mined and lab diamonds, as well as Moissanite, but I didn’t think any option was hands down better than the others. I also wanted a modest solitaire between 0.5 – 1 ct because of my job/lifestyle and desire to wear my ring everyday, so the cost difference wasn’t really a factor because I wasn’t looking for the largest stone possible. My ring was actually more expensive than a similar diamond ring because of the Canadian diamond and recycled platinum. But overall I agree with my SO’s choice to spend a bit more to work with this jeweler. 

I personally have yet to talk to anyone who has specified that their stone is a lab diamond or Moissanite. But it has also not been a point of question or discussion in general, so I have no reason to assume they all must be mined diamonds beyond their ubiquity. Noticeably large stones are also not the fashion amongst people with whom I have lived/worked, regardless of age, so I can’t say that I’ve looked at anyone’s ring and even had that “is that a diamond” thought due to size alone. 

Post # 30
23 posts
  • Wedding: September 2021

I am 30 (got engaged at 28). I have a natural mined 1.01ct diamond. I am actually looking to upgrade to a 2.2 carat lab diamond center stone & will alternate wearing both. I went with natural because DH and I 100% wanted a diamond and my knowledge of labs wasn’t what it is now. FWIW, no one has ever asked me the origin of my stone.

I’m not overly fussed or sentimental about natural diamonds being formed for billions of years, nor do I care about resale value (I’d be more concerned with my marriage ending). For me, it’s more about getting the specs and size I want at the best price & just wouldn’t feel comfortable spending what a 2ct natural diamond goes for. Also, I don’t get the bad rep as both lab and natural diamonds are identically chemically composed, even most gemologists cannot tell the difference without seeing the laser inscription so it’s a no brainer.

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