(Closed) Bees with gemstones instead of diamonds, please chime in!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm

Did you have a particular color or gemstone in mind? I have a yellow sapphire engagement ring that I love 🙂 I’ve had it for close to 2 years with no scratches. Sapphires are a really hard stone (I believe just below diamonds on the Mohs scale) and come in many colors, so that may be a good option. 

Post # 3
5107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

I have a ruby, which is a red sapphire, they are made out of the same mineral. I love it. I will say though, that I chipped mine within 2 weeks of wearing it. It’s tiny and nobody would notice it but me, but there is a tiny chip. I don’t recall banging it or anything before I noticed the chip and have banged it plenty of times since without any damage so I don’t know maybe something was wrong with the cut to begin with. 

Post # 4
4238 posts
Honey bee


Yep, Corundum: Saphhires and Rubies.

I’ve got a rubies/diamonds a-band e-ring that’s received almost (cough) daily wear for 13+yrs. And it scratched up a CZ that I stacked next to it pretty good, too. 😉

Post # 5
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Diamonds are a 10 on the Mohs Scale and sapphires/rubies are 9. 

Emeralds are 7-8, and more delicate because of the inclusions in them.

Sapphires come in every colour, the red ones are just called rubies. 

What colour are you looking for? Padparadscha sapphires are really unique and beautiful. Montana sapphires are also pretty.

I have a blue sapphire and it’s just fine. 

Post # 7
1382 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sapphires/rubies can be scratched by diamonds but nothing else, BUT because of their structure, they are actually less likely to chip compared to diamonds. So a sapphire will hold up to everyday wear as well as or better than a diamond. Other stones will not. But sapphires come in all sorts of colors. If you like light blue, look up cornflower sapphires for rich light blues and Montana sapphires for icy blue (and green.)

Post # 8
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian


takemetothebeach:  Definitely go look at them in person and look at them in settings you like. I was seriously considering a pink sapphire but couldn’t find a setting I loved it in. There are tons of absolutely beautiful gemstone e-rings out there. I’m sure you will find something perfect for you!  

Post # 9
109 posts
Blushing bee

I have a Ceylon sapphire so it changes color depending on the light conditions. I didn’t want a diamond engament ring and like the meaning behind the blue sapphire. It worked for us. I don’t have chips or scratches but with anything you do want to be mindful of the activities you are going to engage in. There is a limited supply of gemstones, especially unheated or untreated. The supply of diamonds is limited by the cartel. Check out the history of diamonds you will find some interesting reads.

Post # 10
256 posts
Helper bee

I have a 4ct emerald-cut emerald solitaire in a 4 prong setting – I’ve heard from so many people that emeralds are not suitable for everyday wear because of how easily it chips and scratches, but I’ve been wearing this ring on my finger since he proposed (obviously except for showering, washing dishes etc…) and I haven’t seen a blemish on it! 

Post # 11
840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

My stone is amethyst, with a simple gold band. My boyfriend’s birthday is in February so it worked out perfectly. 

Post # 12
45 posts

I have a spinel, and it’s recommended for daily wear. It’s an 8 on the MOHS scale. Spinels come in a whole spectrum of colors. Mine is a peachy pink color similar to that of a morganite, but it looks different in every light and is difficult to caputre. What I love about my spinel specifically is that is has a lot of fire and sparkle, similar to a diamond, which can be lost on some gems. I’d highly recommend the stone. My Fiance got mine from JuliaBJewelry she pretty much exclusively does gemstone rings. She does beautiful work, and also does custom orders. If you love gemestones, go for it! You won’t be satisified with a diamond if you really have your heart set on a gemstone. I never wanted a diamond. I wanted something unique and I have serious issues with the diamond industry in general. Diamonds, though beautiful are not all that rare (unlike quality gemstones) and prices are falsey inflated. I think all rings are beautiful diamond of otherwise, but if diamonds aren’t your taste don’t feel pressured to get one.  Here’s a collage of my 3.5 peachy pink spinel. 

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Post # 13
1295 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Like PP’s said, sapphire and ruby (red sapphire) would honesly be your best choice. I feel like all other colored gemstone except maybe emeralds are just hard enough for everyday wear. When I was in high school I had a beautiful amethyst ring that was from my grandfather. Since I wore it almost every day, after about a year, you could really see the wear on the stone. 

You may also want to cosider lab rubies or sapphires. They are of the same compisition, but were just made in a lab. They are much more affordable and many have no inclusions.

Post # 14
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was going to say if youre worried about long term life, sapphire and ruby are safe. Theyre the same gem if you didnt know just called differently based on their color. Actually, sapphires come in many many colors. There are some other things you want to consider aside from hardness though. I have a gemstone ring myself so which I love by the way.  #1 is thatsome people may judge you for not having a diamond as far as finances especially if youre in a well paid profession. #2 if you really like to match and wear a lot of colored nailpolishes, you’ll probably notice some clashes. I  don’t think either of those things should matter to you if you want a colored stone I just wanted to mention it, full disclosure kind of thing 🙂

Post # 15
3015 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Yes, corundum is the hardest non-diamond colored gemstone. I’ve been wearing mine everyday for almost eight years now, and it has held up well. 

I have a padparadsha sapphire ring, which is a kind of pinkish-orange. Sapphires come in just about every color imaginable, so you can pick your favorite color! 

I highly suggest buying yours where Darling Husband bought mine, http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com . Great selection and service! 

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