Bees with Long Engagements

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Our engagement will be 16 months – we had initially hoped for 8 months but decided to do a destination wedding and wanted to give our guests enough time to save up for the trip! At first I was gutted it would be so long but honestly the last 6 months have FLOWN. we booked our vendors early so all the “big” stuff is done and now it’s all the fun little stuff like DIY decorations and personal touches which is so much fun! I’d rather be able to relax and enjoy it than feel rushed at all. Plus, we live together so not being married doesn’t change our day-to-day in any way! 

Post # 17
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2014 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We are having a 16 month engagment. I wanted a sping wedding, but this spring was far too soon. 

This also gives us time to save, pay, get everything done with out loosing our minds. We will come out of our wedding debt free from it. That’s the way we want it. We are a in our early 30’s so there isn’t a huge rush. It’s been nice slowly planning.

Post # 18
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2130 posts
Buzzing bee

We had a two year engagement – to the day. 

Reasons: 

– Wanted to be able to choose any vendor without them being booked. 

– Wanted a specific date and only one year would put that as a Wednesday, I felt Thursday was more acceptable, and didn’t want to wait 3 or 4 years for a Friday or Saturday. 

– Our living situation wasn’t ideal. We had just bought land and wanted to get the build done first so that when we came home from our honeymoon we were living in our own home, not with parents! 

– Just wanted time to be able to enjoy planning, rather than rushing through. We will hopefully only be engaged once, so why not take some time and enjoy it? We have the rest of our lives to be happily married. 

 

Post # 19
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2805 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I had a two year engagement. It began as we had found our venue, and didn’t  want to compromise on the weekend we  had chosen. I never really had time for it feel like an  eternity. Of course, we have always done things on our own timeline. As in,  had a baby, bought a house, got engaged…. and then decided to have a second baby before the wedding (since we had so much time to spare)…. Which resulted in a pretty hectic two years, and at the end I could have used some extra planning time 😉 

Post # 20
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253 posts
Helper bee

Ours will have been 2 years, 3 months. We were in no hurry because we already bought a house, and neither of us had any particular preferences for the wedding. I’m rather disorganized by nature, and I was frankly paralyzed by the thought of the planning, the money, and some awkward family/friend situations. In the end, we decided to cop out and do a very small but hopefully very fun, relaxed wedding this June. cool

Post # 21
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1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

courtja :  I am right smack in the middle of the Bible belt and my Fiance and I have been engaged for almost 9 years. 

Just no need to rush for us. We are both older, been married before and sometimes, life just happens. 

Post # 22
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Our engagement is a total 24 months. Engaged July 2015 and our wedding is this July. We are both finishing up college (3 weeks left!) and wanted to graduate first. We didn’t hold off getting engaged because we had been dating 3 years already and wanted lots of time to plan. We will be dating 5 years when we get married.

Honestly, we have gotten a lot of mixed reactions but only from people who don’t know us personally. We are young (engaged at 20, will be married at 22) so we got a lot of “Oh my god, you shouldn’t get married that’s too young, why are you rushing?!”. When I replied we would be graduated with Bachelor degrees, have a 2 year engagement, and dating a total of 5 years by the time we get married the exact same people would then say, “oh my god why are you waiting so long!” 🙄

You just can’t please everyone so go on with your bad self. You get to be engaged for only 11 months so enjoy it! You have the rest of your life to be married.

 

Post # 23
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840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

courtja :  It will be a little over two years for us and I’m always asked when are you getting married lol. I just laugh and tell them that they will be the first to know. We’re having a very simple wedding. 

Post # 24
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

courtja :  My fiance is from bible belt NC and I am from Florida. We are waiting over a year to get married because my father died in january and my counselor told me not to make any big decisions for ONE YEAR. So anytime after January 2nd, 2018, I can get married. Longer engagement just means more time to spend telling peopel you are engaged and enjoying the moment! Why rush it?

Post # 25
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

courtja :  We had a five year engagement. I was in school, my dad got sick, and then life just spiraled. Our decision to finally do it was on a whim and we eloped and had the time of our lives!

Post # 26
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731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We got engaged in march 2015 and are getting married this July (so a little over two year engagement). We wanted time to save, but also.. my cousin also got engaged 2 weeks after us and I knew they would want their wedding to be in summer 2016. We wanted ours to be in summer as well, but we figured having our families attend two weddings so close together would be a hassle so we opted to move ours to the year after theirs! 

Post # 27
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

14 months from engagment to wedding. I would’ve done shorter, but there was no way I was making southerners fly to an icy winter wedding and family work schedules + holidays basically meant it was either the end of October 2017 (7 months planning from a distance wasn’t going to do well for my stress levels or vendor selection) or May 2018 or later. We went with May.

Post # 28
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We’re waiting just shy of 2 years. When we first got engaged we just didn’t want to scramble to put together a wedding in 9 months, we were struggling so much to make up our minds on what we wanted and couldn’t even agree what state we would have the wedding in (my family is from one place, his from another, and we live in a totally different place). I’m glad we waited so long because if we had gone with the original wedding plan we had I don’t think it would have been nearly as good a reflection on us as the one we’re having now.

Where I am I don’t know if it’s even possible to plan a wedding in 6 months unless you have a ton of money to hire someone to make it happen!

Post # 29
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

we got engaged july 2, 2016, and our wedding is august 18, 2018.  I am currently working on 2 masters degrees, as well as working, and I didn’t want to compromise my studies to plan a wedding.  I will be done with my degrees in December, so I will have more time to plan.

Im really glad we are taking the time though.  It is allowing us to really think about what we want, it allowed us to book our first choice of vendors because we had so much time, and I’m a lot less stressed because I can do one thing, and then wait a month before I do something else.

Post # 30
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19 posts
Newbee

Oh dear! Well, hold on to your hats ladies because I think I have you all beat (not proud of it). . . . 4 1/2 years! 

I really don’t think of it as a big deal. We have tried planning 3 different weddings but we got distracted by other people’s opinions – I am very sensitive to other’s opinions and I get overly anxious. We finally realized we didn’t have fun planning and I didn’t want that experience to look back on. My fiance and I are extremely happy together (going on 8 years this summer) and we know when we are ready to plan, we will.  Lately, we have been slowly talking about it, on our terms, and we are thinking of a wedding-moon (go on a long honeymoon and get married while on it) we Will plan a celebration party the following month for those family and friends who weren’t there for our wedding. 

 

Have fun planning, ladies! 

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