- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
Ours will be almost exactly two years. Eengaged september 2015 wedding September 2017. And the reason was simple, I didn’t want to compromise.
We live in a beautiful mountain town that happens to be one of Canada’s biggest tourist attractions. Venues, vendors, hotels, everything book up way in advance. By waiting an extra year we got the venue, photographer, officiant, etc that we wanted, and it took stress off, you can take time and do things in increments instead of a mad dash.
Not that long engagements aren’t without their hiccups. If you have female family who are of a similar age and in a serious relationship you run the risk of one of them getting engaged and booking there wedding less than two months before yours – as I have experienced! But I still wouldn’t trade my date for any other so don’t be deterred!
Oh wow, around here, anything shorter than a year seems pretty short. I’m double you at 22 months!! It was a combination of wanting an outdoor ceremony and having to put a pause on wedding planning because we moved twice during that time.
I’m a Bible-Belt dweller, too! Engaged 12/2017. Wedding Sept/Oct 2018. And halelujah for that!! We are paying for everything. And by “WE” I mean “ME”. Fiance is prepping to put down a massive house downpayment so I willingly volunteered to pay for our wedding. A totally unfair trade-off for him!
Women and girls I went to school with who got engaged a couple of months before me have already had their weddings…. and here is how those specific women were able to accomplish it:
Parents’ money. Connections. Church.
Big Church weddings are still the norm here so everyone tends to pitch in with planning. Stereotypical church weddings come with most of the logistics built-in (preacher, audio director, lighting, musician connections, reception hall, etc.), and that makes the process go much faster. Throw in the family’s perfect neighborhood clubhouses if dancing is not allowed at the church. Not to mention most parents pay for the weddings because most Bible Belt weddings are for very young couples fresh out of college. Add in sorority sisters or sunday school pals and you’ve got yourself a wedding planning TRIBE. Everyone knows everyone and someone’s uncle owns a BBQ joint and their cousin’s girlfriend makes cakes. Also lots of money. (remember, I said the women I knew. Not all Southern Bell families have lots of money, but they usually have a big-ass church and connections for food or cake, etc.).
We’re having a two year engagement. We’re waiting for our daughter to be older (my fiance’s request) and to save money. It also gives us lots of time to plan the wedding.
I’d never planned a wedding before now but I’d watched enough Say Yes to the Dress to know that the consultants LOSE their MINDS if the wedding is less than 6 months away.
Our engagement will be 22months long and it was HARD the first few months but it seriously flies by. Our wedding is less than a month away! We did it to save up and to avoid stress because we have time consuming jobs.
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