Post # 1
I have some friends who I thought of asking to be bridesmaids, but they are so busy in their lives that I felt I would rather cut out any potential drama and bad feelings and just invite them as wedding guests. Also they are not from the same timeline in my life and don’t really know each other so I didn’t want them to feel awkward on my wedding day.
I’m thinking of having no bridal party at all (at least not on my side) and I’m wondering how did you manage your gown if you have a chapel or longer train? Who held the gifts from guests for you? Who helped you hold the bag with emergency stuff like makeup and sewing kits and your phone?
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
chachamaru : I’m having a Bridal party, but I wasn’t planning on asking them to help with most of this stuff so I’ll share what I’m doing 🙂
I was just going to hike it up until the last moment really lol 🙂 my Dad is escorting me down the aisle and will be instructed on what to do if necessary 🙂
Maybe this is a UK thing, but I’ve never seen someone hand a gift to a Bride at the Wedding. Any gifts are put on the gift table 🙂 however, you could always ask your Mum or someone to look after these? Ours will be taken to my Mum’s hotel room afterwards.
I’m not having one. Literally everyone I know will be AT the Wedding, so I’m going phone free 🙂 you could perhaps leave the other things you think you might need at the venue ahead of time? That way you’ll be able to get to them on the day if you need them 🙂 alternatively, ask a family member to look after your bag – I’m sure they wouldn’t mind if it’s only briefly for photos etc 🙂
Post # 3
Hi, in my country we usually do not have a “bridal party” I plan on walking the aisle with my father, I might have a flower girl and that’s it. My aunts will be holding the bag with the emergency kit, the phone, and deal with that kind of stuff.
Post # 4
Iam having no bridal party but instead asked my ladies to be a part of my bride tribe and gentle asked if they would mind helping with smaller task (im type A anyways and dont want anyone to do anything really) but I allowed them to get together and plan a shower (letting go was hard!) Im just going to hand my bouquet to someone and if you have a designated area for cards and gifts they shouldnt be shoved in your face anyways. Im not really worried about a sewing kit etc… my mom or dad will have my purse n stuff… no worries 🙂
Post # 5
Gown – post ceremony, the onsite coordinators and my mom helped bustle.
Gifts – no one handed me a single gift; everything went in the card box with the exception of 1 card handed to my husband.
Bag – no bag, my mom held a lip gloss and powder compact for me, though even that wasn’t really necessary.
I did have access to my room as our wedding was at the lodge where we were also staying. I didn’t have a bridal party or any attendants of any sort and don’t regret it at all!
Post # 6
chachamaru : Only two my my BM’s knew eachother (had met a few times) it wasn’t awkward, they were polite and friendly with one another, I wouldnt worry about that too much.
Post # 7
I don’t think I will be of much help.
Dress: I don’t have a train.
Gifts: I don’t expect any, we are having a small destination wedding and are not registered anywhere.
Bag: I will have a small clutch that I will keep with me at the reception, I may have my mother hold it during the ceremony or I may leave it in our vehicle.
Post # 8
I didn’t have a bridal party for many of the same reasons as you, but I found that people actually loved being part of the day and helping out – particularly when I asked them for small, specific things (I think they were all relieved to not have the drama and hoopla of being bridesmaids).
You know your friends – is there anyone who you think might be happy to hang with you and help with your dress? Ditto gifts, bag, etc?
I went to a wedding once where her bridal party was one person – her sister – and she asked me to help keep her train straight as she walked down the aisle (the aisle was curved) – I was totally honored to do it – and would have happily held her bag too, had she asked 🙂
Post # 9
I had no train, so that one is N/A. (but I would have just had my mom help bustle it?)
No one handed us a gift. We had a table with the card box. People put gifts there.
I had a purse with my phone and some makeup. I left it in the car for the ceremony and then just carried it into the reception and stuck it under the table. It stayed there until then end of the night, when I took it back to the hotel with me.
Post # 10
You could ask your mom to help with your train (or a sister, cousin, aunt, best friend – literally, anyone).
No one randomly handed me gifts during the wedding. We had a card/gift table that people used.
I didn’t have a purse, I didn’t carry my phone. There was nothing I needed. If I did, I would have asked my sister (MOH) or mom to carry things for me. DH had our room key to the hotel so I didn’t need to worry about that.
Post # 11
Day of Coordinator
What? The groom took care of it
Kept in a locker
Post # 12
The DOC took care of all of that. I wouldn’t have put that responsibility on our wedding party–who should enjoy the day as well!
Post # 13
chachamaru : This is what pushy aunts are for! 🙂 I don’t know about you, but I definitely had older ladies inserting themselves and their opinions which was really just their way of trying to feel needed and important. No better way to distract them than to assign them a “very important job”. They want to support you- so give them a way to do so that is actually helpful.
Post # 14
I didn’t have a bridal party. My mom and sisters helped with anything I needed help with, and everything went off with out a hitch 😀