(Closed) Bees with weddings passed… Question about RSVP vs no shows…

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had 9 people who cancelled in the last three days, including two no shows.  Total guests 87 – so 78 at the end of the day.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had 129 people RSVP We had about 5 people cancel last minute and 6 no-shows. We also had a few people show up with univited dates so it worked out to about 7 wasted meals.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had a family of 4 cancel last minute out of 140.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Out of 105 that RSVP’d, we had 5 no shows and one wife that got sick and couldn’t come. But 1 ended up coming that we didn’t put in our numbers that thought he might have to work that night. So, in the end it was 5 meals we overpaid for. Kind of frustrating, but it happens to everyone I think!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We have 42ppl RSVP and had 6 no shows the day of.  So we had a completely empty table so ppl were able to move around.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had 154 RSVP yes – one did not show (no explanation), one cancelled last minute but had warned us ahead of time that may happen (her daughter had her first baby the night before in a town several hours away), and two showed up for the ceremony but had to leave before the reception due to a severe allergic reaction.   

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was expecting 192 and 20 freakin people no showed that RSVPd with positive Yes!  

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

this is making me incredibly anxious…. 

for the last minute cancellations (not the no shows), how last minute were they?

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

about 8 ppl who RSVP did not show. but my grandmother passed away 2 days before teh wedding….so my grandmother, grandfather, uncle and others didnt show for obvious reasons. 2 of them were not related to the death of my grandmother. 60 ppl total at the wedding

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

oh, but 4 extra people showed. we had invited a family of 5 and they RSVP that only one would attend. I even talked with her to confirm that only she was coming, not her husband or kids. well, to my surprise the whole family came! thankfully we had room for them….

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson:  My last minute cancellation was the day before – her daughter went into labour so she knew she wouldn’t be there.  Luckily, our venue coordinator was super awesome and said that because we were “a dream” to work with, she wouldn’t charge us for the late cancellation.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a buffet and plenty of space, so our numbers weren’t super tight or important – but, I know there was one person who rsvp’d yes and just didn’t show at all (we still don’t know why) and two more who said yes and backed out via text message the morning of (I got the “sorry we can’t make it” while I was getting my hair done). So, 3 out of 70 or so yes’s didn’t come. We did have a few people show who didn’t rsvp (or weren’t invited – a friend brought her mom because it was a long drive to make alone, etc.) – but at least four or five people left after the ceremony and didn’t eat dinner, so the no-shows and leave early folks more than made up for the unexpected/extra folks.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had two couples not show up; they didn’t call ahead of time to let us know.

We also had a family of seven only bring one of their kids, so that was four no-shows. They also didn’t let us know ahead of time. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SFreeman2187:In the end we had RSVP yes for 104 guests. 1 became a no in enough time to cancel the meal for catering.

1 canceled after the catering was due, so we paid for 103 guests, but expected 102.

1 just did not show. I actually asked his girlfriend where he was and was totally surprised the person did not show. 1 more did not show, but technically didn’t actually RSVP. Complex situation but in that case I knew I was taking my chances. It just felt better to have a meal for that person just in case.

 

Last minute, one extra person wanted to come and so we invited her.

We had 101 guests.

Also… our wedding was largely a long-distance travel thing. I’m surprised and honored we had so few no-shows!

 

However, we had a larger than normal percent of RSVP no’s. None of the no’s became yeses.

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