(Closed) bees your smart- tell me what you think! Please

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s frustrating, but you can’t make people do the right thing or behave like adults.

Sounds like your “friends” are going through a selfish phase and, unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do about it.

Concentrate on all the happy, exciting things in your life and let these girls go.

Post # 4
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3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 23, as well, and this has nothing to do with age. They are being extremely selfish. I suggest you go ahead and have your wedding without them. It sounds like you are having an intimate, small ceremony, so you can get away without having bridesmaids if you want to. I honestly think keeping these girls on board is just going to make you continue to feel bad…

Post # 5
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Drop them from being your bridesmaids. If you’re not getting the support you need, then you don’t need them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with PP.  I had sort of an opposite situation.  I became good friends with with girl and all of the sudden after 6 months of dating, she was engaged.  Then her whole world became her wedding.  I tried to be understanding and ask questions and all of that but she just never talked about anything but herself.  Never asked me how I was or anything like that.  She was also judgmental as your friends seem to be.  I  just let her drift away.  It’s not worth it to have that in your life.  I know it’s a bummer to lose the wedding party but they will always be in your pictures, and you don’t need a reminder of how they treated you badly.

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