Before Babies, You Need To…

posted 12 months ago in Babies
Post # 46
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3029 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My husband and I waited until we were married for several years, traveled and enjoyed our hobbies as much as we wanted to, I was established enough in my career that I could walk away from it for 3-5 years and re-enter the workforce easily enough, he found a job at a family-friendly company, and we owned a house with a big yard. While I am happy that we waited as long as we did because I love my daughter and we would have made a completely different person together had we not overplanned everything right down to her potential astrology, none of it was necessary and we probably could have had kids several years ago no problem. 

As far as a bucket list goes, my only regrets are not wearing more sexy clothes when I was young (pregnancy left me with stretch marks from my chest to my thighs so I can’t even wear a miniskirt without feeling gross anymore), and not sleeping in when I had the chance. 

Post # 47
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734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Lots of sleep

Post # 48
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2503 posts
Sugar bee

To me the basics are: 

  • Stable, loving partner
  • Steady income & good insurance 
  • Safe, stable home environment 
  • Reliable transport 

I don’t think owning property or having a car is necessary, and in a lot of cities with good public transit and sky high real estate costs, it’s also not realistic. 

At 28 I’m finally at an age where I’ve accomplished a lot of my personal goals, so I don’t really feel a push to travel or cross off particular bucketlist items before we have kids. In our ideal scenario we’d relocate cities and buy a home first, but people relocate and deal with moves and buying homes with young kids all the time, so I don’t think it’s really a must. Our only real must would be moving to a bigger apartment. Otherwise, our finances are in good shape and there’s never going to be an ideal time career wise for me to have kids. 

 

Post # 49
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1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Stable careers 

Married

House

Now we are expecting our bundle of joy in March

Post # 51
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Our original list included marriage and a house but those are complete, yay. But now we need to have a certain amount in savings, travel, and obtain architecture licensure. Which all aligns next summer hopefully. Even if we’re not totally licensed that’s ok. If I have one more exam to do while pregnant, it won’t be ideal but it’s fine. 

Post # 52
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725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

rockclimberbride :  On our unofficial list we have…

1. Career changes (he wants to go move from working in a jail to being on patrol and I want to move from dispatch to nursing).

2. Buying a house.

3. Go out of the country & continue to go on our little adventures. 

4. On my personal list… be healthier! 

5. Get a puppy(:

6. Get more involved in our church/ faith

 

Also, those are in no particular order!

Post # 53
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1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Married
  • home ownership
  • good job with good maternity leave 
  • travelled 
  • build up a nest egg of savings 

And we’re nearly there! Just working on the savings part after an expensive 2018 with our wedding and honeymoon. 

 

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