Post # 1
The other day, my sweetie reluctantly told me he’d be proposing before the summer. We were talking about our relationship, and finances and stuff. And I was kinda expressing my concern about him maybe taking some extra time to “get himself together” to prepare to be engaged. And he totally just laid it all out on the table. He said, that’s the most I can tell you without telling you the exaclt month and day!
I kind didn’t wanna know all that, but I’m also kinda excited he told me. It’s great to know he’s confident with his timeline. I couldn’t help but smile a little in the middle of a serious convo.I thnk this information keeps me calm and collected, and it’s probably best I know that he’s planning to do it soon, so I won’t drive myself and him crazy. Soemtimes you just have to check the pulse of the situation, ya know?
The orignial plan when we moved in together last May was for him to propose within a year. I figured he’d take the full year (and I was right). But I’m OK with it, I guess. I feel like we’ll both be as close to ready as we can get.
A few weeks back, I asked him how 2014 sounded for a wedding (since 14 is my lucky number and it would give us plenty of tine to plan) and he said good!
Just the other day he told me he wants to propose in front of my mom and his parents too. Not sure how I feel about that, but I don’t want to take anything away from him if that’s the way he wants to do it.
*Sigh* All of these are still just thoughts though, and still seem so distant. But I feel like I should focus on enjoying every day because once it’s over and the engagement is official, I’ll regret not having lived in the moment and cherished our time as just boyfriend and girlfriend. Random thoughts from a waiting girl 🙂
Post # 3
Aw I am so happy for you! Relish in the excitement =)
Post # 5
That’s great news! Does he want to propose in front of the parents cause it’s something he wants or because he thinks that it’s something YOU want? If he thinks that is something you want and that isn’t exactly the case, I see nothing wrong with finding out and slipping that in at some point. Don’t get me wrong, we shouldn’t dictate our proposals. But at the end of the day he wants to do right by you, so, I see nothing wrong with helping him if that’s the case. 🙂
Here’s to hoping it happens WAY before summer hits. Like….now…or now….what about now? 🙂
Post # 6
@claireos: Good question. And you’re right…I should probably bring it up. But with him, getting into that much detail about the actual proposal may be a bit awkward. He REALLY REALLY wants to do things on his own. He doesn’t like me prying, he hates when I make suggestions about how/when HE should do soemthing (regarding the proposal), and he’ll barely let me have a say in my ring! Working on the ring part though, b/c i’d hate to have to exchange it for something different but I will if I have to, lol.
To be honest I don’t know if I’m ready for it now. Surpringly enough, I’m OK with waiting until the Spring! Such an indecisive girl I am.
Post # 7
@Reign14:Lol, I’m the same! I had a 6-8 month period of being fuming, then we got the ring and now I’m quite content to wait a few years! I’m sure I’ll get back to raging fury in a wee bit 😛
Post # 8
@Reign14: But I don’t really know what I want, so I figure I’ll just leave it up to him. If he wants family to share the moment, so be it. I have no idea how i’ll feel or react in any situation :/
You posted this in my thread and I thought I’d comment on it in yours. 🙂 In that case I totally see why you wouldn’t bring it up. I only really brought up the fact that I didn’t want friends and family there because I know me, I know how distracted I get by people I know and I would be worrying about what they thought, how they felt, if we were being too intimate or not intimate enough, and I certainly didn’t want to be hit with performance anxiety mid-proposal. Based on my personality, I knew 100% that I didn’t want them there and that I wouldn’t enjoy myself as much as I could if they were there.
If you aren’t sure where you stand, I could see not saying anything. Who knows, you may be surprised and you love it! I also think it’s healthy that you’re ok with waiting to. Getting engaged is a huge step and not something to be approached blindly. If it doesn’t feel right at this exact moment, it doesn’t feel right. It’s really mature of you to recognize that and not force it anyways.
Post # 9
That’s great news! And before the summer gives him plenty of time to still make it a surprise. At least you both know where you stand in the relationship and where it’s headed. And yeah trying not to think about it is hard. My Boyfriend or Best Friend told me it’d be this year and sometimes I wish he hadn’t because now I’m always on semi- pending engagement alert even if I don’t mean to be. Try to enjoy every day as it comes though.