(Closed) Before the wedding, did you live with your man?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Before the wedding, did you live with your man?
    Yes, I'm happy we did! : (151 votes)
    82 %
    No, not until after the wedding! : (33 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m with you on that. I mean, it would make life a lot easier, seeing that my job is 10 min away from his place, 40 from mine…its just something that I’m looking forward to the day we marry. Maybe I’m a bit traditional too, I donno ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 5
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I lived with FIs family for about a year while I was in school, but I think that’s different since we were still in his parents’ home and we weren’t setting up our ‘couple routine’ in our own house. I think it’s easier for us to not live together, mostly because of our school/work situation as well as the fact that I’d rather set up habits as a married couple than try to change habits that we’ve formed while living together. I’m a little goofy on that, though, I even discussed with him that we should move into a new apartment separate from either of the ones we live in now so there’s no “you’re moving into my house, I like the dishes here, etc etc” strangeness. I like a fresh start together, but that’s just what works for us and I think that living together works out for many couples. 

    Post # 7
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    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MSomar: I know, I can’t wait! Definitely looking forward to some IKEA shopping and decorating ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I have lived together, on our own for about 5 years. I personally think that its very important for a couple to live together before marriage (even if just for a few months). Living together and dating are two very different things. Until you live under the same roof and share bills, you can’t really be 100% sure of what the other person is like.

    I learned alot about Fiance when we started living together. Some of the things that I learned were good and some were bad. Thankfully I was able to get over the things that I wasn’t a big fan of but sometimes the other party really can’t get past the quirks that their SO has that they didn’t know about. I’d rather find these things out before we were legally bound to eachother. 

    I have never once regretted our decision to live together. In the last 5 years we’ve dealt with so much as a couple that we’ll be able to tackle anything thats thrown at us in the future. 

    Post # 10
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I might end up moving in with Fiance a little before the wedding, but right now, I’m enjoying living with my parents for one more year.

    Has anyone had friends be judgemental about this? Because my friend and her Fiance have lived together for about six months, and ever since the first day she’s been dropping kind of crappy remarks about how ‘you’ should always live with someone before you marry them. I understand that you learn more about the other person that way, but we’ll have been dating for about four years by the time we get married. I’m not going to dump him because he doesn’t pick up his socks :P.

    Sorry, that was a bit of a tangent, I’m just getting sick of her making comments and then looking at me :P.

    Post # 11
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can see how it’s something to look forward to if you wait to move in together until you get married. I will be moving in with my fiance in 23 days (yes, im counting down because I’m really excited, haha) because he lives about an hour and  a half from me and for over a year now we have been going back and forth every weekend and we’re over it… Plus my baby starts kindergarten ( tear =() and i want to move before she does so that i don’t have to pull her out of her school to put her in a new one. i guess everyone has their own reasons. we are getting married in september though so it won’t be too long that we are unmarried and living together..

    Post # 12
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @jo.lee: my dad is the same way. usually you’d think parents would be all old school like “no living together before you’re married, its sinful or whatever” lol but he isn’t too happy with him and I living together for 6 mos before the wedding.. kind of silly but I already know him and what’s the difference besides it being legal anyway?

    Post # 13
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    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We lived together for about a year before getting engaged.  I was 31 at the time.  When I was younger I said I woulnd’t want to live with someone before marriage, because I thought that it would take some of the excitement out of the whole “We’re Married!” thing.  But as I got older my opinion changed and I dont think I would have gotten married without living together first.  Maybe it’s because I was single for so long before we met and I was so used to being on my own.  Moving in together was just the next “logical” step for us, kind of like another test to see if we could handle living together.  Obviously we could!

    Post # 14
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    55 posts
    Worker bee

    @MSomar: & @jo.lee: I think it’s cool that there’s other people living with their parents. I thought I was the only one! I don’t really feel the need to go out and make my own house until I’m married, and a lot of my friends have judged me for it too.

    Post # 15
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My partner and I lived together on and off throughout college/summer work programs for about 3 years (we never stopped living together because of a break in the relationship, but rather one of us would be doing one thing in one area, and the other would be somewhere else).

    We have been living together for almost 4 years now though and actually bought our first house together last year.

    For us the next logical step was co-hab, if we didn’t kill each other then all was well. If face murder happened, then a reassessment of the relationship was in order.

    Post # 16
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @FlamingRedHair: I’m glad I’m not the only one, either! I’ve always encouraged her in her relationship, and it sucks that she feels the need to lecture me on mine :P. 

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