Post # 17
This is exactly what I get from some people too… That is why I decided to post something about this issue.
“I understand that you learn more about the other person that way, but we’ll have been dating for about four years by the time we get married. I’m not going to dump him because he doesn’t pick up his socks :P.”
COMPLETELY agree!! I will be with my fiance for 7 years by the time we marry…
You are making a great decision… I’m a teacher and know how hard it is for students to enter a school in the middle of the year. Your daughter must be excited!
That definitely seems like a logical step for us… Thanks for sharing!
Post # 20
Congratulations on the house! Huge step 🙂
Post # 21
That poll is definitely not favoring our decisions… However, I did expect it. Nothing wrong with either lifestyle!
Post # 22
Yes, we had been living together for 2 years before he proposed. I think it’s important, if you’re going to make that leap you have to make sure that you can live with them first!
Post # 23
Fiance was living with roommates and I was living on my own when we started dating. Seven months into our relationship, I moved to the UK for a year to do a Masters degree. Near the end of the year, he found us an apartment, and we moved in together when I came back. I love coming home to him 🙂
I think it’s definitely something that needs to be decided on a couple-by-couple basis. Living together right away just felt natural to Fiance and I, but I know for some people it’s just not for them until after the ‘I Do’s.
Post # 24
I think it’s a personal decision/choice. What works for one couple, may not work for the other.
Post # 25
@muckmoo1:@Birdie Love: @linguo42:
It does depend on each couple… Thanks for adding to the post!
Post # 26
my Fiance and I moved in together 6 months after we got engaged. it seriously was the best decision we ever made. we grew 10 times closer and fell even more in love.
Post # 27
We moved in together about a month after getting engaged and its been amazing! We were already in love but now he’s my very best friend and my closest family 🙂
Post # 28
I think it’s kind of odd to not live together before you get married. You really get to know someone and all their little habits that you couldn’t possibly know until you share a home 24/7. I know too many people who lived seperately and then got quite the shock when they finally moved in, on top of the stresses of being a newlywed.
That being said, I do think it’s a rather romantic notion. It’s a nice thing to save for your married lives together and I’m sure it will work out just fine for you both.
Post # 29
We lived together before we got married. In an ideal world, maybe I would have preferred waiting, but that just wasn’t the reality of the situation.
For one, we were in a long distance relationship. Long as in a 3 hour flight or 18 hour drive. We’d see each other every few months and someone always stayed with the other for at least a week, occasionally longer (once for an entire month) because a hotel would have been too expensive for that long. So, by the time I was moving in, staying together under the same roof for an extended amount of time wasn’t bringing any surprises. Our long distance relationship lasted 4 years before I moved in and I had been living with him for just over a year when we got married (though we weren’t yet engaged when I moved in. that happened 5 months later).
Second, we live in NYC with incredibly expensive housing. Paying for two separate apartments would have been silly and a huge waste of money (assuming we could have even afforded it!).
I think both sides have their ups and downs.
Post # 30
It took us a while to figure out how to live together- I am so glad we did this before marriage! Maybe it is just because we started dating so young so we had a lot of growing up to do anyway, but living together taught us how to compromise and work together to get things done.
Post # 31
We’ve been living together over 2 years. It’s my opinion that in this day and ag,e it’s not really realistic to jump into marriage without that experience together.