(Closed) Begin Mini Rant- Seating at my sisters wedding

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It may not have been intentional.  Maybe she had a hard time fitting things together for the seating chart?  Those things can be brutal.  I would think you should sit with your parents and other immediate family though.

Post # 4
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FreckledFox:  That stinks, but maybe she wa having a hard time putting anyone else at that table and it made it les awkward for everyone to put you at that table than a completely random person. I would try to let it go and not take it personally. After the meal you will be up dancing anyway!

Post # 5
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree that it sucks, but maybe she was having a really hard time with her seating chart. I make a new seating chart each month for my fifth graders, and it’s the f’ing puzzle with no solution lol. A can’t sit near B. C’s parents hate B’s parents. D needs to sit up front… BLAH. When I started our wedding seating chart, I realized it was the same shit. Who knows each other, who isn’t talking, who had an awkward breakup… :- I’m not finished, but my goal right now is that everyone be sitting with at least ONE person they know well and like. I try to make it more than one, but sometimes there’s nothing you can do. Just assume that she did her best and be happy you’re sitting with your husband :o)

Post # 6
3152 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@FreckledFox:  you’re only at your seat for dinner. It’s just a few hours- really probably only 1 hour that you need to be in your seat. Don’t worry about switching. you will survive. 


Post # 7
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hey, I totally get how you’re feeling.  My guests’ comfort is a HUGE priority at your wedding.  Not everyone is as sensitive, though.  I think you’re just going to have to take this in stride and let her have her day.  It may be that your sister was having trouble with the seating chart, and felt she could count on you to be a good host to her friends.

In the grand scheme of things, this is pretty small.  Dinner won’t last long, and as soon as the dancing starts, there’ll be empty seats, so you can move tables.  Don’t let this drive a wedge between you and your sister. 

Post # 8
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Seating arrangements are tough (as you know). I haven’t always been happy with mine at weddings. But… we just have to suck it up. 🙂 When they all start dancing, you can get up and go over to your cousins’ table.

Post # 10
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Are you the only one out of the cousin who knows the friends? If you were sitting at the cousins table then who from the cousins table would have to sit at the friends table? 

At least you know the friends, I imagine your cousins don’t know the friends at all so that is why you were chosen.

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