First & Foremost, I see you are NEW here… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
* Buy yourself somesort of Wedding Planning Book… many of them have timelines in them (a TO DO LIST for like 12 months out, 9 months out, 6 months out, 3 months out, 1 month out…. right down to THE DAY
* Consider buying a Book on Wedding Etiquette (found at most Bookstores)
Etiquette can be a mindfield because most people have their own opinions… but in the long run the Standard Rules of Etiquette will give you an idea of what your options are in ANY Situation, and as all this stuff has been around for like 100 years, it often takes the guesswork out of sticky situations that otherwise come up. At least then you won’t feel like you make too many mistakes that could potentially offend anyone.
* WBee is a great place to start lots of good info, and the Boards here are a great way to learn things, bounce ideas off of other people, and vent / air out any problems that might arise
* Bridal Magazines can be a real inspiration… lots of pretty pictures.
* Pinterest is also a great resource, in that you can “pin” all your ideas into one spot
NOTE – Pinterest allows you to have PRIVATE Boards… a good idea for your Wedding Plans (I had one for Ceremony, one for Reception, and one for Honeymoon). In this way, all your ideas / inspiration aren’t public knowledge
* Don’t talk so much about your Wedding in real life that you bore your friends & family… or worse yet they all figure that you talking about it with them gives them the right to voice their opinions. That will drive you crazy & cause much DRAMA that otherwise is avoidable
* Likewise don’t post about your Wedding on FaceBook… it causes too much DRAMA… and is RUDE for those who read about it that you ultimately won’t be able to invite (due to venue size or cost / budget restrictions)
* Talk MONEY issues with only those who are on a NEED TO KNOW basis. Blabbing a whole lot about money issues / budget will cause you to be judged by others. When it comes to money it is NO ONE BUSINESS but your own how much you have, or HOW you choose to spend it.
So there is NOTHING WRONG with sharing only limited financial info with Parents if they aren’t footing the bill. And if someone (like a Parent) wants to put money into the mix, get an idea of where they’d like that spent… (ie FIL puts in $ 5 K… and wants it spent on the Reception, fine & good… but then he doesn’t naturally get a say on the Invites… what they cost, what they look like etc)
* Don’t jump the gun on stuff and make commitments before it could make sense.
Picking out your Bridal Party too early can prove to be a mistake for many Brides… as things / relationships can change, in the lead up time to the Wedding. You don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor from the second you are Engaged. Take some time to think things thru.
Save The Dates… they work great for Destination Weddings or Different Cities from the Norm. BUT if you haven’t worked out the key details on your Date, Budget and Guest List you might end up in an embarrasing situation down the road, where you’ve sent a STD Card to someone you now cannot afford to invite (happens too often on WBee)
Better to skip the STD’s entirely… as an Etiquette Snob I can tell you they are not a required element to Wedding Stationery. OR if you are looking for just a joyous way to spread the News of your Engagement then opt for Engagement Announcements instead… they come with no obligations whatsoever in regards to the Wedding.
* Bridal Party… when you are at the point of picking… take the time to sit with each person and explain to them the obligation… including the TIME and MONEY ones. Many people say YES before they realize what the expectation really is.
Likewise be aware of your own obligations to the Bridal Party from an Etiquette & Financial Point of View… including that for their contribution they will be recieving Personally Chosen Thank You Gifts (to their personality), that as the Bride you usually host an event in THEIR HONOUR (the Bridal Luncheon), IF you want them to appear all matchy-matchy that is at your expense, that Transportation at your Wedding Events is on YOUR DIME, as well as their Accommodations, and that they and a Date of their choosing (no matter what their relationship status) will be attending the Rehearsal Dinner & Wedding as a two-some.
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Lol, I think that covers most of the BIG stuff we see on WBee.
Hope this helps,