Post # 1
I’m getting married in 39 days. Asides from having my dress, a location, the invitations ordered ( but not near close to mailing)… I have no idea what I need to be doing… So many people keep asking “can I help…” and other then doing the invitations, I don’t know what I need help with. His grandmother has been planning weddings for 30 + years. She told me ” just worry about buying the flowers, the music, and the food”. K. Can’t do anything about some of that til I start getting RSVPs…
This whole wedding planning experiance has been far less than what I imagined. There are not get togethers with the brides maids to make certer pieces… no get togethers in general. I can’t get them all in one room at the same time.
My biggest fear right now is not fitting in my dress. And we are putting everything that we pay for, including the honey moon to Cali, on credit…
I just really needed to vent… I know I can’t be the only person that is lost. I feel so alone in this process. I just wish it was more exciting… Maybe it’s just me.
Post # 3
Have you a photog? A dj/ ipod + playlist?Vows/readings picked?
I’m inclined to think all you really need is a good meal and god music and everyone’s happy.
Post # 4
We have a computer program we use when we DJ other peoples weddings, need to teach his cousin out to work it, we have list upon list of music we MUST have…
He didn’t realize a photographer would cost more than 300 bucks, but his aunt and uncle charge 800… so i guess we are goin with them, reguardless I don’t know we are going to pay for it… BUT I WANT amazing photos like I see everyone else have… -sigh-
He is suppose to write the “speach” that his cousin who is marrying us is going to say. I don’t think we are doing our own vows, I’m horrible with words and his will have me uncontrolablely crying…
I’m waiting for a peace sign stamp to come in I ordered for my invitations… should be here this week. And I’ve got the cardstock to put the maps/rspv on…….
Then other things, like make sure the girls dresses get done, get a dress from the flower girl, make sure they have matching shoes, and figure out hair and makeup. and…. um… i need all the under the dress stuff. cause i’m not going to fit in ti as it stands…
Post # 5
it’s free and it provides a checklist that shows when tasks for the wedding are due. That way you know you’re on the ball and it’s gratifying to check things off!
Post # 6
Yes, you need a checklist! The thought of this happeneing to me almost just gave me a heart attack! My wedding is not until Sept of next year and I have all my research done on the big stuff with 2 options picked out for each. Ceremony site, reception hall, dj, photographer, ect.
Dont worry about the RSVPs as you dont usually need an exact count until the week of your wedding. Just give estimates to the people who need them bc believe me they will understand that you dont have the exact numbers.
Post # 7
if you’re that close I wouldn’t worry about the type of stamp, I’d just mail them out!!! People can take their sweet time with the rsvp’s and you want to have numbers to give vendors. my recommendation would be to ask friends to research stuff for you. eg. ask 1 person to find you a good make up artist, another for a cake, another for alterations, another for the flower girl dresses etc. that way everyone has a job – can you ask someone to pick up the stamps and drop them off to you? If you ask they will help!
Post # 8
Check out the knot.com’s checklist. But, you ARE in the waiting stage. A few weeks/month before, we get into that place where nothing can be done because you’re waiting on the RSVPs. If you can guestimate and get away with doing some things, like decor, accessories, transportation, etc, do that while you wait. Otherwise, stay on top of people and try to get as many RSVPs as you can so you can hurry up the process.
Post # 9
Go get the Flower Girl dress and accessories ASAP!! Sometimes dresses take forever
Post # 10
you really need to get those invites out. some vendors (mine) want final numbers 2 weeks before the wedding. that only gives your guests 2 weeks to rsvp!
Post # 11
I’ve felt pretty much exactly the same way. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way too, but am comforted that I’m not the only one.
Post # 12
First, get a checklist that is to your taste and make a budget for how much you want to allocate for each thing. Do the big ones first (license, dress, tux, flowers, food, cake, photos,
Do you have an officiant?
I ordered junior bridesmaid dress two months ago and it will not be in for another month. You may find a nice dress off the rack at bigger stores.
What type of cake do you want? I don’t necessarily lump that in with food.
Do you have all the requirments to pick up a marriage license for your state?
Flowers- are you going to do your own, have someone make them, or get some pretties from a grocery store/Walmart?
Venue for reception? Decorations, chairs, etc.