(Closed) Being a Bridesmaid – Facebook Dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Just tell them you don't have Facebook. E-mail is fine. : (19 votes)
    50 %
    Get back on Facebook. : (14 votes)
    37 %
    Other. : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would tell them email is fine. But facebook just seems more fluid and better for a group to talk. My advice to you is make a facebook don’t add any friends or pictures and just join the group and use it strictly for that. If you don’t friend people or have a friends list it might take the temptation out of it.

    Post # 5
    103 posts
    Blushing bee

    I completely agree with TwoCityBride- great idea but I also agree with you….. Facebook can become so addictive and annoying!


    Post # 7
    4376 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @TwoCityBride:  Agreed. Create a brand new account – no friends list or photos or anything. 

    No one except the wedding party will even have to know it exists. Set self-limits if you are worried – i.e., check the group once each morning and once each evening.

    Post # 8
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I agree with pp — make sure your fb is on the highest privacy setting so that people can’t find you, and use your account strictly for the bridesmaids group.  No offense, but I’ll bet that the other bridesmaids aren’t going to be understanding when you say you don’t have a fb or the reason — they would probably insist you make an account anyway.

    Post # 10
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    As a bride who created a Facebook group for her BMs, I don’t think email is a good idea. Like @TwoCityBride said, Facebook is very fluid when it comes to group conversations. All you have to do is post something or make a comment, and everyone gets a notification. The bad part is that not everyone checks Facebook the same amount, and not everyone responds. My Future Sister-In-Law never checks Facebook, which is weird because she’s 16. I have to see her face to face and tell her to go look at whatever I posted. I’ve been trying to get the girls to start narrowing down Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but no one ever responds. It’s a little frustrating tbh.

    The problem with email is that it’s really not good for group conversations. I can send out an email to my Maid/Matron of Honor and CC the other girls, but not everyone has the common sense to click “Reply to All,” so then it only comes to me and then I have to forward it to everyone. Multiply that by x number of bridesmaids, and it gets really old, really fast.

    Unfortunately, if you don’t end up in the Facebook group, you’re going to be very out of the loop. I’m not sure if you can even do this, but is there a way to create a private Google+ group that you could all chat on? I can’t think of another platform that facilitates conversation like Facebook groups. :

    Post # 11
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Mars62312:  I picked other.  I am not on facebook and never have been on facebook and I def wouldn’t have wanted to have been forced to join because I was a bridesmaid. 

    I actually just was a bridesmaid and we did it through e-mail, dropbox, conference calls and actually meeting in person.  The drop box account allowed us to create folders and share pictures of ideas we had.  We could meet in person or on a call and all have access to everyone’s ideas and talk through them.  The most efficient way to talk to other bridesmaid is through calling because we’ve all had miscommunications though online/texting and we’ve all had online conversations through e-mail take longer to get an answer when we just could have talked to the person real time.  Plus when you don’t know each other online communication is a little tougher because you don’t know everyone’s tone.  

    Post # 14
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Mars62312:  Good plan! My roommate did this with a group she had to be apart of. She had no friends, didn’t use her last name, and made sure she was unsearchable. It worked out well with the dummy account.

    Post # 15
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You could also suggest using Pinterest instead on a “secret board” this is what my BMs did!

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