(Closed) Being a bridesmaid the same time your planning to be a bride?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Hi!

  I am a bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding and I am planning my own. The big thing for me was the amount of time between the two ceremonies. Hers is at the end of October 2011 and mine is June 2012, so we have quite a bit of time. We also just ordered dresses for hers, so I feel like I am able to plan ahead for expenses and keep that in mind. Plus, I will do a lot of planning over this summer, so that will help tremendously.

  Are you worried about the time crunch? Cost? Something else I’m sure I’m forgetting? πŸ™‚ There are a lot of things to think about.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Me and my friend are in eachother’s weddings which are 2 weeks apart.  I dont really see why you wouldn’t accept the invitation.  Just go to the wedding (which I was planning on anyway) and walk down the aisle wearing a dress the other person chose.  The other things (bridal shower, bachelorete party) will probably be a month or two before the wedding, so I don’t really see any issues there either.  Being a bridesmaid is an honor but I don’t consider it a lot of work…..

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am experiencing this right now.  I am planning my wedding for June and standing in a very close friends wedding in early September.  I think the only that has affected me at all would be the costs but because she means so much to me, this is not something that I am going to keep me from standing for her.  It is quite simple … some days I wear my bride hat and somedays I wear my bridesmaid hat.  She is standing in mine too so I am sure she is feeling the crunch.  I can assure you that it absolultely can be done.  I think as the last poster mentioned time between weddings could certainly be an important factor. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am planning my wedding for next March. However I’m a bridesmaid in 2 weddings in September AND a maid of honor in a wedding in November. At first I was hesitant because of the costs of being in their weddings, but I have been close with all of these girls since highschool and I wouldnt want to let them down. It is going to be very busy but I wouldnt have it any other way πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My wedding was six weeks before my sister’s wedding, in which I was a bridesmaid.  It was definitely tough to be planning my wedding, planning stuff for my sister, and finishing up my last year of my undergrad degree, but I did it!  I say go for it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

yep! my best friend got married at the end of September and I got married last month! πŸ™‚ At first I was really stressed at the thought of it, but when it actually came around, it was perfect. Everything was perfect.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am getting married in December and a best friend is getting married 3 months before in September. When we got engaged, I knew I didn’t want to wait tooooo long but wanted to put enough time in between hers and mine (there were no doubts from either of us that we’d be in each others weddings!).  Hence – my December wedding. I have no concerns about being able to play a role in her wedding and no worries about what she’ll be able to contribute to mine!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I did it and it was fine. My wedding was in July and hers was in September, what was stressful is that we didnt live in the same town…so her festivities included alot of traveling and more money then normal…not to mention the wedding wasnt in her town or my town either. It was very stressful at times, but everything was fine. I was organized enough with my wedding that when it came closer to my day i had downtime and worked on her stuff.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m actually going through this right now.  I’m getting married this May.  Right after I got engaged, one of my close friends got engaged and decided to have her wedding in March.  Needless to say, it has been stressful planning my wedding and I also have obligations for her wedding.  It is out of state.  So she is going to be in mine as well.  Its really hard and at times, I feel overwhelmed.  But, I honestly wouldn’t have it any way Smile

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m in this situation, only our weddings are pretty far apart.  I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friend’s wedding this July (woohooo! coming up so fast!!), and I’m planning my own for next March.  I’ve already got a lot of my planning done so I’ll be able to focus on her until her day is over. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was married in October and in 2 weddings over the summer.  It was kind of stressful because my wedding and one of the weddings I was in were out of state.  But I loved these ladies and wouldn’t have had it any other way!!  It definitely has made me appreciate the lull after my wedding!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My friend and I are each others maid of honor (well I get I will be matron), because she is getting married two weeks after me!
I am also maid of honor for another close friends wedding this summer.

I don’t really find it stressful. The only thing is $$ but everyone seems to be keeping things fairly reasonable and understanding towards each other if someone can’t make it somewhere.

It’s fun planning together! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@heyitskate:  I originally declined an old friend’s request for me to be in her wedding because I was in the middle of changing jobs and am planning my own wedding.  She was really upset about it and called to tell me about a month later.  I decided that my stress level wasn’t worth upsetting her about her wedding and have just been trying to charge through it.  A new job and wedding planning later, I’m going crazy, but it’s ok.  Smile

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m planning my wedding for July 7, 2012 and just found out my friend, who will be a bridsmaid in my wedding and recently got engaged, wants me to be her maid of honor for her July 28th wedding, three weeks after mine!  I’ll do whatever it takes to be there for her, but it makes me nervous having the two weddings so close together!

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