- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So, my mom came into town to help me with last minute wedding things. We went to pick up the alterations, talked to the band, dropped off vases to the florist, chatted with the photographer, etc. Interestingly, all of them told my mom the same thing: I was definitely not a bridezilla.
This was joyous news, for I had NEVER wanted to be a bridezilla (although I have gotten extremely stressed at home). I wanted to make sure that I was as nice as possible to vendors and friends for the entire wedding process. (Of course, I still have a week to change their minds :)). But then, I began to think about what a bridezilla really is.
Some women are dubbed bridezillas because are truly attrocious: They are the ones that intentionally put people down and make others feel bad. They take the “it’s my day” role so far that they forget about basic manners and tact.
However, some bridezillas are dubbed as such for simply displaying their emotions. I remember seeing a bride get visibly upset because her band didn’t show up to the wedding. Suddenly, her anger and tears earned her the title “bridezilla” by a few guests. Why wouldn’t she be angry and cry? It was her wedding, she paid them a deposit, and the band didn’t come. I felt bad for her.
I also remember watching one episode of Bridezillas when a woman picked up her dress and it had an ink stain on it, and she cried. To tell you the truth, I can’t hardly blame her. Wedding dresses cost a lot of money, and I wouldn’t want ink on it either. While replacing some beads on my dress, the seamstress accidentally pricked her finger and bled on it. It was just a couple of tiny specks of blood, but I could see it. I was disgusted. I wanted to vomit right there on the floor. I wanted to scream, “Why didn’t you put on a band-aid!” But, I didn’t SAY ANYTHING out of fear of seeming impolite. So, I smiled and took the dress home. That night, I was so disgusted that I couldn’t even try it on until I was sure it was disinfected (if you ever need to know how to disinfect a wedding dress without ruining it, I am your girl). I wonder what would have happened if I had became the dreaded bridezilla and spoke up? Perhaps she would be more careful with next bride’s dress.
All in all, there have been several times when I wished I could have spoken up, displayed my disappointment, or been firm about my ideas. I didn’t want to be dubbed a bridezilla or a b_tch (as women who stand up for themselves sometimes are). I am still going to have a wonderful wedding with details that I am truly excited about! But, I can’t help but think planning would have been easier if I had stood up for myself from the beginning.
In sum, being rude is never a great way to celebrate your wedding. However, I do admire when women are brave enough to speak their mind or knowing exactly what they want. Also, I have no qualms with women who get upset when the wedding catastrophes happen. To these women, you are not a bridezilla in my book!