- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Just wondering what others expect from their MOHs. I watch wedding shows and see “Bridezillas” and think to myself – man, that would never be me! However, I’m getting significantly disappointed with my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s my oldest, best friend. We have done EVERYthing together. Went to h.s., college, and moved out of state (to the same state, where we still reside just a couple hours apart) together. I do a lot by myself, and I’m fine with that. I have designed my own invitations, centerpieces, location, etc. No biggie! But here are the things I’ve gotten pretty upset about.
1.) Not once has she volunteered to come dress shopping, or really do any wedding shopping with me. I’ve had to ask BOTH times she’s been, and both times I’ve had to go to her (2.5 hr drive). The first time, she almost cancelled one of our appointments, since the day wasn’t devoted to dress shopping, it was broken up with something she also wanted to do with her boyfriend. Has she gone with me? Yes. But it would’ve meant a lot for her to give me a call and offer to come spend a weekend with me shopping and doing wedding things.
2.) She has me contacting my other bridesmaids and friends about my bachelorette party. Finding out a date, who can go when, etc. On top of this, she and her bf have recently started talking about marriage. SO happy for them. But while she has me doing things for my own bachelorette, she has started talking about how hers has to be something extravagent, like a trip somewhere or something over-the-top in case her boyfriend goes somewhere cool. WTH? What about mine?
3.) I’ve called her several times to get her opinions on wedding things. When we registered, I was really excited to show someone what we picked. She refused to get online to look. When I chose my wedding dress, and got a pic of it (she couldn’t be there that day, as it was out of town) and emailed it to her. Her response “Looks good”.
I’ve been really bummed out because like I said, she’s my very longest-time, BFF. As of late, since engagement talks have started between her and her Boyfriend or Best Friend she has come around. But now, the conversations go to “WE are both getting married!!!” But…we’re not. I am. Now it’s my turn, and soon it will be hers.
I’m very let down and hurt by her behaviors, but maybe I shouldn’t be expecting so much??? And she hasn’t been totally horrible. She does give her opinions and is positive about a lot of things, but these few things are really bringing me down. Others have told me to let her know how I feel. But I’m afraid I’ll be accused of being a “Bridezilla”. Have any of you experienced similar things? Advice appreciated!