(Closed) Being a groomsman's date (when he is also the brother of the groom)

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

He probably cares about you enough to want you to spend this special moment with his family. I think it would be odd of him to invite you just for the sake of having a date, especially since he’s part of the wedding party and will probably be busy like you had mentioned. Will you be getting in town before the wedding so that you can at least meet his family prior to the wedding? I think it would be overwhelming for me to meet his family for the first time at the wedding since the main focus should be on the bride and groom.


Post # 4
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@pollychai:  I think the fact that he’s inviting you means he’s got more feeling for you than you let on in your post. No way would I ever bring a friend with benefits to a family member’s wedding unless I planned on it becoming serious. Waay to many awkward questions & situations there. So !yay! I really think he considers you more than that and possibly serious girlfriend material as well! 

Keeping this in mind I’d totally go. I’d ask him casually if he knows of anything you could get the couple as a wedding gift, stress that you’re 100% lost on what to do as you don’t know the first thing about them. He’ll either 1- tell you not to worry and that he’ll put your name on his gift, or 2- tell you where they are registered (in which case I’d just give them a $50 giftcard from there). 

Does he have any other siblings or cousins that would be there you cna meet ahead of time? I find other family can sometimes be an easier transition into the family than full on parents…. 

Post # 6
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@alexa1927:  Don’t worry about it at all!  My now-FI took me as his date to his brother’s wedding, and he was the best man.  I really didn’t know many people, but he still managed to pay plenty of attention to me, and we danced all night.

Now we’re getting married.  😉

It’s a non-issue.  Just try to put on your social butterfly hat and introduce yourself to the people at your table at dinner.  You’ll be fine!

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