(Closed) Being a step parent is friggin HARD

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

That sounds really frustrating.  I’m sorry you have to deal with that.  🙁

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@mixtapehearts:  Can’t the courts give your SO more visitation? 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Step mothers are heroes of a different ilk, stick to focusing on the kids, and what’s good for them and ignore the garbage momma brings.  I’m a five year vet of the trenches and my step daughter got wise to her Mom’s crap pretty quickly.  Hang in there!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I totally got stuck on the FB can be both amazing and awful trying to figure out what “FB” was.  I was like “Future Baby?” I don’t get it…then I read on and felt like an idiot.

But yes, step-parenting is definitly hard.  As I was that kid that made my stepmother’s life hell for several years, dreaming of ways to get her to disappear or ship her off to Australia, I feel like I owe the stepmothers of the world a huge apology.  I’m forever in debt. 😛

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ugh~ hope you didn’t read my original post… I saw your recent post and what I was saying doesn’t apply here at all.  I am so sorry you (and the kids) have to deal with this. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mixtapehearts:  (ack… I’m just making you more frustrated!! So sorry!)  Feeling powerless is the worst feeling.  I can’t get my ex to pay attention to my son, which is probably better in the long run.  I keep open access, but he’s inconsistent.  My son is old enough now to understand that it isn’t something he’s done, but there were rough days in the recent past.  He’s not damaged by it, thankfully.  But it changes who they are regardless, although it can become a positive aspect of who and how they are…

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@mixtapehearts:  When I showed up they were both teenagers,which was like trying to push a cart sideways, and it was two steps forward, eight steps back.  I let their mother make an ass of herself, made sure those two knew I loved them, and that any soul who reached out to harm them was going to pull back a bloody stump.  Kids know who is really on their side, just keep your head up and remember you are doing your best.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mixtapehearts:  It’s tough, but I try to keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be negative… I’ve seen several friends live through a crazy-making childhood and become the most caring, aware, and successful adults. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Why don’t you take it back to court. It should be in the custody order that you have a mandatory 1 contact a day in some way shape or form (phone call, email, etc.) and if they are not allowing it you can file a motion for contempt. I don’t mean to sound harsh but people deal with this crap ALL OF THE TIME (myself included) ignoring it wont get anything done, you have to take action. If she is at fault, the courts WILL punish her. It’s a pain to mess with but it’s worth it.

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