(Closed) Being adopted…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@WendyS328 That’s amazing!! It’s really touching to hear adoption stories, because alot of times the birth mother gave her children up so they would have a better life. :o) I hope your communication with your birth mother goes well!!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wendy – that’s really interesting to hear and I’m really happy for you and your sister. I, personally, have never heard of a birth mother contacting the children (in S. Korean adoptions, at least). I was adopted from S. Korea when I was 6 months old and I’ve given up all thoughts that she’d ever come looking for me so I don’t know how I would feel if she ever approached my parents. I can’t imagine the emotions you and your sister must be feeling. I wish you and your twin sister all the best!!!! Best of luck!!!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Wow, that’s crazy. I was adopted from South Korea when I was 4 months old and also grew up in a Caucasian household. I have never really thought of my birth mother trying to contact me – that would really surprise me, I mean I don’t think she would even speak English! Do you want to meet her?

People always are surprised when I tell them that I really don’t think about meeting my birth parents – but honestly, I feel like my adoptive parents ARE my parents. But then again, it would be nice to let them know that I turned out fine, and that I have a great life and that they made the right decision!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow, that must be emotional for you. I recently read Ann Fessler’s The Girls Who Went Away about unwed mothers in 1950-1960s America who went to homes and basically were forced to give up their children and how it almost destroyed some of their lives. Not the same as your situation, but I had never really thought about the birth mothers, either. Good luck with your situation!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m adopted too 🙂 Yay adoptees!

I was born in a sort of… eh area in IL, and from a friend whose mom works at the hospital there, she said not to have my hopes up about my Bridesmaid or Best Man. I think a lot of the kids there grow up with drugs and drinking and don’t have great futures. So for your Bridesmaid or Best Man to contact you… that is so great! I now face the reality that my Bridesmaid or Best Man might be strung out and barely even think of me, so I’m a little jealous!!! Please keep us updated!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

It sounds like it will be really interesting! Yeah, it would be good to know what I’m going to look like when I’m older. Haha. You obviously have your twin sister – but I think it would be CRAZY to see someone that looks like me. Soo weird.

 

 

 

Post # 12
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5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, great story @wendy…I really wish you and your sister luck and happiness with this.

I am not adopted but my little brother is.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

Wow thats great!  This is kind of weird because I have a twin sister and we were both adopted from S. Korea as well.  Our birth family contacted us about 3-4 years ago.  They had sent letters to the Korean Adoption agency who then forwarded it to the adoption agency my parents went through in the US.  The letter was really informative, explained what was going on in their lives when we were put up for adoption and that they wanted the best for us and always thought of us.  It seemed like there was a lot of guilt and that they thought we would be angry at them for giving us up.  Which is totally the opposite of how my sister and I felt.  They also sent pictures which was pretty cool, we have two older biological sisters that look a lot like us.  

We sent a letter back and gave our thanks for loving us so much that they wanted to give us a better life.  We also sent back pictures of us growing up.  All in all it was a great experience and I wish you best of luck.  I never grew up thinking I didn’t belong or really wondering that much about my biological family but it was pretty awesome to see pictures and hear their story since it is a part of who I am.  Sending them a letter back letting them know that we were raised in a loving family and doing well and that they made the right choice and we loved them no matter what was a great feeling.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

That’s really wonderful that your birth mother has reached out to you. I live in Korea and have met a number of adoptees here who have either come back to meet their family members or who have come here searching for roots.  I am so sad to see that women are still being forced into giving their children up for adoption here (or being feeling pressure to have an abortion).  I hope that you are able to create a positive relationship with her and find out more info about your birth family!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@WendyS328 Are you two going to seek out your birth mother? We adopted my little sister from a cousin of mine on my mom’s side of the family. Her birth mother gave her up to an aunt on her mother’s side but that aunt got the baby taken away from her. We adopted my little sister because she was taken away by cps. Her birth mother only lives about 20 miles away and she doesn’t do anything to reach out to her daughter or spend any time with her. She sees her occasionally at family events but I know that is not enough. Well, good luck and it must feel special to know that your birth mother still thinks about you. How old were you two when your birth mother gave you two up?

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