Being asked "Are you wearing white?"

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Does asking "Are you wearing white?" to a bride have significance
    Yes - it is an indirect question about your virginity : (16 votes)
    29 %
    No - coloured wedding dresses are becoming more common : (39 votes)
    71 %
    Other - please explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Without knowing anything about your FI’s aunts, I would chalk it up to colored dresses becoming more common.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think she was asking if you’re wearing white-white or more like a variation of white champagne, bone, ivory, etc.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it would depend on the person asking the question. I would have just asked what the dress looked like, and maybe “what color is it” rather than “are you wearing white?” because I know how that can sound. It’s hard to say without context.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Little_Nut88:  Eh. I think your answered perfectly. Let her think what she wants, not worth worrying about.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    @Little_Nut88:  Oo well maybe that points a little more towards a veiled question LoL.  Regardless if it was or wasn’t, don’t let it bother you because you’re right, that’s none of her business!

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    This question should be avoided because of the possible inference. White dresses did not originate as a symbol of purity but a lot of people think it did.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I wouldn’t want to think the worst about your aunt, but generally women of a certain age will ask that question will ulterior motives. Add in the fact that she is religious and her tone was serious, I do think she was thinking about something other than the color of the dress. But, like PPs have said, that isn’t her business.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee

    My aunt asked me that and I was a wee bit surprised. I didn’t harp on it though – she might have been wondering about how a stark white would look on my skin.  

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    That is odd, but I would pay no heed. Everyone is different, and it’s really not anyone’s business to be asking about your “purity” so to speak. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    it colour be lots of things… many of my friends where coloured dresses and ive seen red, teal and black so I dont think I would think twice about that question but then to me ALL shades of white are white (ivory, off white, brilliant etc…)

    I dont think anyone expects a bride to be a virgin now in modern westernized cultures, some maybe but I dont think its something greatly exected (unless its a religous family)

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

    I think because there are a lot of brides wearing blush colors these days, she may have just genuinely asking about the color of the wedding gown it self, not your virginity. 

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