Post # 47
I’m basically unemployed, the rare money I make goes towards credit card bills and my cell phone bill. I’ve applied to just about everything out there, from things in my field (Computer Graphics) to Retail jobs. SO has a decent job, but he may be losing it at the end of the year. He’s about to propose, but I’m not sure we’ll be able to have the wedding of my dreams (his dream is to elope, mine isn’t as lavish as a Hollywood Starlet’s affair, but I’d like a decent party to celebrate our new life as Man and Wife), so I’ve been scaling back my dreams. Idk what the future holds.
Post # 48
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
I didn’t want anything super religious either. Neither did he. There are a couple of “Jesus” mentions on their website, but it’s far from uber christian, and we’re happy to contribute to a place that provides solace and refuge for those who need it 🙂
You never know what can happen in the future. All it takes is a good job. I’ve gone from earning minimum wage to having a great salaried position and it makes a huge difference in what we can do vs what could only be a dream before. (ie. having a photographer, or having a dj) It’ll all work out as it should.
Post # 49
I’m from a smaller town, so everything doesn’t cost as much as it would be in a big city, but I will NOT be having my dream wedding and when I sat down the other night I came to the realization that I am okay with that.
FH just got let go from his job, I work retail and go to school, and we have a 3year old, and we are paying for our wedding by ourself…. everything.
I’m opening to do everything on a budget of $2,500. Found a hall for $250 and my friend is a photographer, so that will be helping out she is giving us a deal for $800, my cermony is outdoors and is only $100. We have a friend that is ordained so that will be free. Now it’s just the DJ, (which I might be just renting speakers and using my laptop), Food/alchol, and my dress on the rest.
A lot of the stuff I’m DIY so that way I can afford it on being broke.
Post # 50
Thanks so much everyone for your input. It’s really helped a lot. And though I am still searching for a venue, I’m not as sad about it as I was before. 🙂
Post # 51
If you want a guitarist for the ceremony, I would suggest looking around at local schools. I know there are college guitar classes, and by that time some of the students are pretty good, but probably would cost too much.
Post # 52
- Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant
I put us on a budget of $10,000 for everything ($5,000 wedding and $5,000 honeymoon). My fiance makes enough to pay the bills and I just got a 2nd part time job so I figured all my income can just go to the wedding budget. I’m trying to go as far under budget as I can. I planned my wedding far enough in to the future so hopefully we can achieve our goal. To be honest, I am largely depending on my tax returns as well.
I always dreamed of getting married at Disneyland because I am such a disney freak, but I am absolutely ok with not getting married there as long as I am marrying the one I love. When it comes to planning on a budget, you have to think about the things you are willing to live without in your wedding. I told him as long as we have a cake and I have a dress then the wedding will be fine. lol
Post # 53
Bridal Shows! I’ve won free uplighting (a $600 value), and I know other Brides who have won everything from a free Photography package to a Honeymoon in Hawaii (Yeah, I was pretty jealous about that one).
A lot of Vendors also give bridal show discounts. We’re getting $250 off our Photobooth and also got a free upgrade to premium liquor from our Venue.
I would just fight for discounts and also throw in some DIY. It will be hard, and sometimes stressful, but I definitely think you’ll be able to pull it off.
Post # 54
If I can find a bridal show that I can get to, I will definately go. 🙂 There is only one near me and it is scheduled for January (it would be cutting it close to wait on a venue til then, but eother vendors might be ok)
I’m starting to find that as a state, Kansas is pretty limp for weddings. 🙁 I’m worrying about taking my show to another state, because of the additional cost of travel expenses (for me AND my other south/midwest family members) but good lord, it is a wedding desert out here. :-/
Post # 55
i am working with about the same wedding budget but i started early ( a year in advance ) getting little stuff here and there and storing it,i found a dress that orginally was $699 for $99 at davids bridal (new off the rack) and all my friends call me the coupon queen,message me if i can be of any help …i know tons of sites to get inexpensive things
Post # 56
We have about a $5000 budget. We’re doing an Alice in Wonderland brunch for about 50-60 people. To save money, plus for a quirky look, we are doing paper bouquets, paper cut centerpieces of the tea party, DIY invites on clearance from Target, plus I have been scouring the Craigslist free board for thing to reuse ( think I may have found drink me bottles, yeah!). Brunch is almost always cheaper, so it is a good option to consider. We ended up deciding on a Friday, but it worked out, because kids are in school, so, it helped keep the guest list manageable. It can be done, we don’t have a chunk to start with, we are paying it as we go. Good luck, it will get easier.
Post # 57
money is an issue for us too, were on a budget of about 5,000 dollars, but being in sri lanka money goes further….but i also have the issue of the people that i want to come may not be able to as they all live 6000 miles away in europe! so far 17 of the 30 guests have bought there ticket, and although i (and they) would love them to come it just may not be possible. rather than being upset about this im keeping them in the know by sending everyone (hand made) save the dates and invites regardless if they cant come. A few years back i was abroad when a friend of mine got married, we both knew that i couldnt make it but she still sent an invite and i was really touched by the gesture…. i found this webite http://www.weddingite.co.uk it has seperate sections that allow you to organise different areas of your wedding such as budget and invite tracker, but the best part is that you can design your own mini wedding website my family in england love it becaue they are always updated and it destresses me when planning gets overwhelming as you can put pictures of you and your fiance on it, which reminds you of why you are going through all thi bother. hand make as many things as possible, you can get lots of inspiration from sites such as pinterest and etsy. its more effort than buying but so much cheaper and far more peronal. Get as many of your friends as possible to help out if you can, and remember it will all turn out wonderful in the end. Good luck!
Post # 58
Let me see…
We had about 100 guests and my budget was around 8,000.
We had ours in a community center which was a blank slate but was big and cheap – $350
We had a local Italian restaurant cater and it was buffet style With choice of 2 entrees and three sides…they also provided cheese, crackers, veggies, coffee, and punch. They served the head table and cut and served the wedding cake for all guests and the bill was only $1600. Oh and that includes all my linens too.
we got our invitations, thank yous for the shower and wedding along with other misc paper stuff on vistaprint for like $50 with a groupon.
we got a bartender through our caterer who only charged $11/hr and we bought all our own alcohol. Only spent about $400 on drinks total.
I am very crafty we diy’d a lot. We made the bouquets out of tissue paper. We made the backdrop for the ceremony out of paper fans. We used a lot of string lights to dress the place up. Probably spent $500 on all the stuff for the DIY projects.
what really helps though is just buying a little at a time and constantly going to michaels or Joann’s or hobby lobby and using their 40% or 50% coupons.
Post # 59
Oh my goodness! You ladies are working it! Lovingh this. I FINALLY have a potential venue in my pocket (after nixing dozens of others for mainly monetary reasons).
I’ve given up on a venue in California because while it is where my fiance and I are from, and I think it’s one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been (and I’ve been aorund) the woodsy look I want CAN be found outside of such an expensive state. Now I’m only looking at places within driving distance of my fiance and I. I’ve found a really amazing looking venue and I’m going to be visiting it in a couple of months (my parents will be looking at it as well. Visiting a venue in CA would have involved round trip flights, so obviously that was out)
I’m reeeeeeeeeally hoping this works out, because I havenot liked any venue as much as I like this one- REGARDLESS OF PRICE. If this works, I am confident I can DIY everything that they do not include.
As soon as the venue is locked down, I can breath a sigh of relief and look forward to all the little details I can do on my own as much as I like. 🙂 I’ve gotten some really great advice (and some great websites!) And you guys have really REALLY been a huge help!