(Closed) Being called fat…

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@ShandaK: I punched a girl too 🙂

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@KatyElle: Isn’t this the worst? My mother has never outwardly called me fat, but I go out to eat with her and order something not so healthy, she’ll look right at me in front of the waitstaff and say, “oh hold on, are you sure you should order that?” then she’ll glance at my tummy. This has gone on from the time I was 12 until now. Even when I was a size 6 she would do the same thing. She also compares my sister and I. We both have gone up and down and she’ll use the skinnier one at the time to make the other one feel bad. “Doesn’t your sister look great now. You should do whatever she’s doing” She even did it to my sister when she was pregnant.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@mwitter80: Oh that is my mom! Except it’s not my tummy, but my butt that she pointed to. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I usually ignore it, most of the time until I am alone, then I cry. Because it hurts to be called fat, ugly, or anything like that. But lately, I kind of stoop to their level and say, ‘Ha, well if want to play that game I can cut you down to size and make you cry, so do you want to keep calling me fat or do you want me to point out every little imperfection on you?’

Some boy made fun of me, and I turned the tables on him, and I ended up making him turn six shades red. Did it feel good? No, not really. I felt bad, but I was so sick of being called fat, lazy, stupid, etc. . . Thank God the ‘fat’ me is going away, and the healthier me is slowly becoming so.

Post # 35
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Helper bee

i have been told im fat countless times, from my mother mainly , to family..

i also got told i looked like a dog one night i was out, from some random guy, that hurt bigtime and il never forget it.

i guess its true what they say, 100 good comments are never remembered but one bad one will stick with you for the rest of your life.

as a result i’ve serious issues with how i look and how people look at me:(

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow, some of you have horrible mothers.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@Meealissa: seriously. :[ i’m sawwi ladies.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@misspandy: I get the same from my mom. 🙁

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Let me start off by saying that I can relate and feel very sad for everyone on here who has a…shall we say…unsupportive family.

I was a normal sized to skinny kid all through high school and when I went to college I gained weight (from a size 4 to a size 12). My mom’s comments about my weight got SO unbearable that I stopped going home when I could avoid it. My grandma would pinch at my tummy and tell me how chubby I was and how I had to “lose the rolls” (rolls!?! I gain weight throughout my whole body, so I assure you, there were no “rolls”).  All I could do was leave and cry somewhere in private. Fiance was so ridiculously and unconditionally supportive, I think that’s one of the things I love most about him.  I’m a size 6 now, but I’ve started to gain some of the weight back, and I’m TERRIFIED of what my mom will say when I go home…

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@KatyElle: Same.  She restricted what I ate and in 9th grade I was 96 lbs.  My mom, for the record, is anorexic.

Post # 41
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Don’t have time to list them all. Lol. Mainly I’d get pissed (or indignant) and go beat the crap out of my boxing bag. It’s true though. Those comments really stick, unfortunately. Reading through this I was just nodding my head. Mother, random girls at a gas station (ha), FI’s bitchy grandmother. Lol. It’s funny because NONE of these people were skinny or even average sized.

And I agree – people that haven’t experienced it should really think before judging, just like with any situation that people haven’t personally been through. IMO.

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh — one of my friend’s mothers has an eating disorder that she TRIED to push on to her three girls. Two of which (friend included) were not naturally skinny. She would leave water and diet pills on their nightstands WHEN I WAS THERE spending the night. I was like wow, my mom is bad with her comments but not THAT bad.

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Double post – whoops.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was a fat kid and a fat adult and now I’m a tippy top of avg sized adult.

In third grade at recess, I’d finally had it, I wasn’t going to be teased again. I decided I was going to chase after my tormenter and beat her down…sadly, as a fat kid chasing an avg sized kid, I was unable to catch her, which just infuriated me even more.  I feel bad for fat little me whenever I remember that.

The worst response I’ve ever had to the multiple times I was called fat or teased for being fat was to believe the lies that being overweight made me unworthly…of love, of respect, of a boyfriend or a husband.  I believed it and I did a lot of stupid things to try and prove that it wasn’t true and I regret that I let myself be talked into hating myself simply because I wore bigger pants than most people.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I usually laugh (because it’s not like I haven’t heard it a million times before!) and say something like “Oh, honey. At least my mother raised me to have manners and not to insult strangers.” Then I just walk away.

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can’t believe people are so ignorant! If a stranger ever said those things to me I don’t know what I’d do! Probably cry. As I said in my earlier post, I am not quick with comebacks, and I think I would be so floored by that kind of cruelness.

I wanted to add my mother to the list of “overly concerned” mothers. She’s never been mean, or outright called me fat, but she hints, comments, and tip toes ever so closely around the topic. It’s all veiled in concern for my health, which I don’t doubt, but my mom also thinks Jennifer Aniston could stand to lose a few pounds, so she has her own issues with weight. I definintely am overweight, about 60 lbs overweight, but I am not unhappy, nor am I in denial about what I look like. I finally told her she needed to stop, and to keep it to herself, because her “helping” me was only hurting our relationship. I don’t need someone elses neurosis piled on top of my own problems. She and I are really close so, even though she was 10 types of offended, she has respencted my wishes, and we just don’t talk about it anymore.

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