(Closed) Being completely selfish, my cousins wedding the day after my 21st… gutted!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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Helper bee

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DanniD94:  get your invites out first. The world doesnt revolve around their wedding. Just make sure you tell them your plans. If my man of honour has a party the weekend before the wedding im there! X

Post # 32
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Helper bee

If you’re really worried talk to the bride and work it round them, do it two weeks before maybe and explain why to people there’s no rules for when to have the party. Just don’t stress but dont miss out either ๐Ÿ™‚ x

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

At least it’s the day after, so you can drink at their wedding!  Just go out with some friends, buy your first legal drink, and then go to the wedding.

And think about how it’s not like this: my eldest cousin got married on the SAME DAY as his younger brother’s high school graduation.  Then their middle brother got married the day BEFORE my 30th birthday, which is also the younger brother’s birthday (he turned 20).  At least you don’t have two older brothers who plan their fancy events without thinking about yours!  

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

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DanniD94: 

you should just plan something for sunday like brunch or something. and unless you are in the wedding, you probably won’t get invited to the rehearsal dinner so don’t worry about it.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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DanniD94:  I wouldn’t put it off a whole year- thats pretty drastic. I would just do it the weekend after the wedding, or even the Thursday before. Unless you are in the bridal party there is no real need for you to attend the rehearsal dinner and I would think they would be very understanding considering it’s your birthday. 

If your BFF’s 21st is the next weekend why not see if she wants to do a joint thing? I don’t think your being crazy or unreasonable (that would be calling the Bride & groom asking them to move their date for you), I think your just trying to find a way to make it work- your 21st is a pretty big birthday and one you want to remember (or not! LOL)… 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

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cmbr:  don’t know if you already got an answer (still reading) but as an Australian, who can drink at 18, 21 is still celebrated generally.

OP, just have a party another day. This is what happens as adults. Think of it this way – you get a birthday once a year.  This is a once in a lifetime event. ๐Ÿ™‚

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