(Closed) Being criticized for jumping broom

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
901 posts
Busy bee

I thought “jumping the broom” was pretty typical for African-American weddings. Handfastingh is more of a pagan ritual originating in Ireland, I believe.

Post # 4
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with you on “jumping the broom”. It does have slave origins, but I think reclaiming the tradition in a positive way is sweet!

Post # 5
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you want to do a ritual or incorporate a tradition because it has personal meaning to you, regardless of your heritage or religion, I think it’s fine.

People get all bent out of shape over things that they don’t even understand. I’m thinking about having a Huppah at my wedding because I like what they represent. And my fiance’s father was adopted by a Jewish couple. Fiance may or may not be Jewish by blood, but I like the symbolism. Yet everyone is like, “oh that’s offensive.”

Then again, people tell me MY heritage and tradition of the bridal dance (wrongly AKA the dollar dance) is offensive so …. I must be a terrible person because I respect my ancestor’s traditions. 

Sigh. Sorry, venting. 

Bottom line: if it’s meaningful to you, I would go for it. If there’s one day in your life where you don’t have to worry about what other people think, it should be your wedding day!


Post # 6
25 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think you should definitely do whatever you want. Jumping the broom is apart of african american culture, during slavery and now. I know it’s hard when you’re trying to please everyone, but remember it’s you and your FH day. Don’t let people stress you out. You’ll already be stressed enough!

Post # 7
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@poetiksoul1225:  I would say whatever you and Fiance find meaningful is what you should do. We have included/omitted traditions based on this. Make it the wedding you and Fiance want it to be, that’s what’s important.

Post # 8
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am also African American and I considered jumping the broom. There are more traditions in our lives that stem from slavery or some other negative historical event. I wont get into all the many other aspects of the current African American culture that stems from something that makes me cringe. On the other hand, jumping the broom does mean taking a leap of faith and you will be putting a modern spin on things.

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