Being entirely alone at your own wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

It’s called eloping. Totally normal, people do it all the time.

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Have you ever talked to a professional about this? I’m sure a trained counselor would be able to help you work through some of this.

I don’t know if you realize this but you do have at least one positive family experience. Your SO. She is your family and if you ever do marry and have children you will rebuilding your own ideal of families.

ETA: I’m assuming by “special night” you mean consummating the marriage. You might be surprised to learn lots of couples are so exhausted after a wedding the consumation doesn’t occur until days later.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m sorry you have had so many awful experiences. Your SO is helping you to learn that not all people are terrible and some are caring and loving. Hopefully, long before you have to worry about a wedding, your SO will share with you some of the friends or family members she knows to be caring and loving people and you can come to know them as well. They will then not be strangers to you. 

We are capable of constructing new families for ourselves. I hope you have or will explore counseling to address your history. Your past does not have to hold your future hostage. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Elope sweetie. Communicate with your partner. Marriage is a team and figuring out together what your wedding will look like is the first of many decisions you’ll be making together. 

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