(Closed) Being friends with an ex girlfriend or boyfriend on facebook…yes or no?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m friends with all of my exes on fb, and I believe my SO is as well.  I don’t see the big deal at all.

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

Depends on their history and their interaction, but I have no problem with it. I am friends with flings I have had (were/are friends at the time) he is friends on FB and occasionally messages one ex.  

Post # 6
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m friends with some. I’m from a small campus and was in Greek life so it was a, everyone knows everyone else? Too many shared friends to not end up civil with each other.

Post # 8
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m friends with all of my exes on FB, and Darling Husband doesn’t have a FB page. If he did, I wouldn’t really have a problem with him being friends with his exes either. He married me for a reason!

Post # 9
2492 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t know if my Fiance is friends with his ex’s on FB, but his best friend until a year ago was a girl who was also an ex.

I am good friends with an ex (mind you, we dated like a month and had been best friends years before that and years after that too!) so he is on my FB. I am also friends with one of my ex’s mom, sister and bro (we were really close when we dated, so I keep in contact with them still).

I think as long as it is mutally acceptable, it’s okay. My Fiance knows I’m not going to get back together with any of these people, so there isn’t a problem.

Post # 10
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am friends with all of my ex’s except for the big one….the one I always thought I’d marry because he was my high school sweetheart. He’s sort of a toxic person anyhow so he tries to add me every once in awhile but I always decline. I know my Fiance wouldn’t care because he knows everything ( we were friends for the few years I was dating this guy) but I don’t really want him to creep on me at all.

My Fiance is friends with most of his, he never really had a serious relationship before me so I don’t mind. I mean, we’ve been dating since we were 20 so most of his old relationships were not serious.

Though the girl he dated before me asked us both on facebook a few years ago to be friends and we both added her….if she wants to creep then I don’t care. But she started to facebok chat him saying she missed him and that she was better for him than I was so we both deleted her… he was only dating her for like 6 months.

Post # 11
10016 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope.  Why open that can of worms?  Neither FI or myself are on Facebook anymore.  I always say Facebook is the Devil, lol.  I’ve witnessed too many of my friends, co-workers, etc. getting so torn up about things that are posted. And these are ADULTS.  It seems so high school to me.  Of course, I realize there is a proper “networking, family pictures, professional” use of Facebook.  But a lot of people seem to abuse it.  I don’t have time for it.

Post # 12
4655 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Generally I don’t mind it.  But it depends.

I’m FB friends with one of my exes and some of my flings too.

Post # 13
224 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.

Some of my ex’s I’m actually friendly with – so I have them on my facebook friends. Other ex’s I cannot stand, so I don’t have them on facebook.

My SO has all his ex’s on there. If anything, I quite like that his ex’s can see how happy he is with me 🙂

Post # 14
4350 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not friends with one that ended badly (longest relationship before Fiance at like 9 months) but I’m friends with all the others. I only dated everyone else for like a week or a month. I started dating Fiance when I was 16 though so I didn’t have a lot of time for serious relationships. I don’t actually talk to any of my exes though, they’re pretty much just people I went to HS with and went on a couple dates with. Theres no point in Fiance being jealous. I could defriend them and they wouldn’t notice. Its more effort than its worth to spend the 5 minutes going through that process since nobody cares. Fiance might not like if I was FB friends with the ex I dated for a long time, but only because I don’t have anything positive to say about him, so there is no reason for me to be friends with him. More interestingly he is FB friends with his ex who he dated for a year and a half, and I’m friends with her too. I know she thought they were getting married (but how can you really think that at 15?) until they broke up. Then she was in one of my classes senior year of HS and ended up being friends with me and was really supportive of our relationship (which I thought was weird but she wasn’t hanging out with Fiance so its not like she was trying to sabotage). She still wishes him happy birthday but I think thats all that they talk. I’m not jealous of her because he could have dated her longer, but he ended things, so she had her chance.

Post # 15
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Nope – you’re exes for a reason.

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