- 13 years ago
- Wedding: June 2008
Christmas Eve my future mother in law and I were looking online for her wedding attire. Aside from her freak out about my mother being so much more ‘darling’ and her being the ‘big fat mother of the groom,’ all of a sudden she says ‘What about Jessica, I want Jessica to wear purple.’ I said oh, well my bridesmaids are wearing eggplant purple. She made a bunch of evasive comments and I was so taken aback that I didn’t really say much of anything other than, purple is fine as long as its not eggplant.
Really it’s not fine. I’d rather she confront or even nag me about her daughter not being a bridesmaid instead of just deciding to outfit her like one anyways. Also, my fiancee’s sister is mentally challenged and she has the mind and hobbies of a 10 year old and a mother who still controls her behavior and clothing as though she’s 5. I personally didn’t want to deal with the stress of adding both their personalities to the bridesmaid/wedding planning.
Everyone says its better to include family and my Future Mother-In-Law even gave the same speech three times but I really don’t want to budge on this. To be honest I feel this decision is my last act of selfishness because in twenty years my sister in law will probably be our responsibility. I feel horribly guilty and shallow about not including her but what do I do about my FMIL? I couldn’t sleep that night wondering what to do and still don’t even understand her approach. Does she expect me to all of a sudden change my wedding party after 8 months of planning? Sigh.