Post # 1
Last night I went to a party with a lot of my FMILs friends. It was the first time any of them hax seen the ring. The comments I received were “it’s huge” i was quick to say it’s not a diamond. But I am really wondering if I should get it made smaller? Has anyone had there gem stone cut down to make the ring smaller?
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@TG123: I had someone say “it is like one of the gawdy texas rings” but then realized how rude that was. My ring is not gawdy or even that big! Some people will just be rude no matter what you do. Don’t let it bother you.
Post # 5
I don’t think you should change it, diamond or not. What makes it special is that your fiance bought it for you out of love knowing you’d love it too!
Post # 6
Who cares… not an issue.
As @musician32992: said in Reply # 2 the important thing is YOU (and your Fiancé) LOVE IT
If it looks like a Diamond, but isn’t… it is up to you if you choose to share that or not.
If you do you could also mention that a variety of Gemstones are now popular are ERings… as you said these were friends of your Future MIL they might not know that… for many older people they only think Diamond when they think of an ERing.
Doesn’t hurt in my opinion to educate people… especially if they are so BOLD to say something beyond a simple
It’s Beautiful… or CONGRATULATIONS
Of course how much info you share is up to you… my rule of thumb is LESS is better.
I NEVER talk stats or price with anyone IRL (just here on WBee)
Post # 7
I am happy it’s a gem stone. I don’t want them to think we spent a fortune on a ring. I feel guilty for some reason. yes I love my ring but I do think I would love it a bit more if it was a little smaller. i would fit in a bit better
Post # 8
@TG123: aw, I don’t think you need to change a thing. What if next time someone says it’s too small? Or makes a rude comment because it’s not a diamond? You’ll drive yourself crazy if you let this stuff bug you. Besides, your ring is so pretty. Wear it proudly!
Post # 9
Wow, some people are SO rude, wtf.
Post # 10
Do not change it one tiny bit unless………….it is something you and your FI want to do. Your ring should be something you and your FI love. That is all. 🙂
Post # 11
@Pixienickie: Well, everythin’s bigger in Texas! HAHA! At least that’s the slogan.
@TG123: Forget about them. Who cares what other women think of your ring! If you love it, then rock it, girl.
Post # 12
@TG123: if you love it, leave it as is! Other people can be judgemental, rude etc- forget about them and enjoy your ring:)
Post # 13
Sometimes people mistakenly think that commenting about how “huge” a ring is is a compliment. They honestly don’t think they’ve said anything wrong or hurtful. So please don’t take those comments to heart. As long as you love your ring, it is just right.
Post # 14
@Pixienickie: omg, how rude! Even if someone was wearing something that you know is fake, or hideous, who says that stuff, especially if its clearly an engagement ring!?
@TG123: only change it if you don’t like it. Don’t allow others to sway you. If you like it, thats what matters.
Post # 15
@TG123: I don’t think it’s necessarily rude when people say that and I don’t think it necessarily means they are judging. A lot of people say it as a compliment without really thinking about it.
Post # 16
I’ve had people comment on the size of my ring too. But I don’t think they say it to be offensive. If I ever do feel that in the future, I’ll just say ” Thank you, I like big things- so my FI gives me big things” 😉 My ring fits my personality and I’m comfortable with the size- no one can change that. I hope that’s what you feel about your ring.