- 5 days ago
Just read this article and it resonated with me.
As a former long distance bee for 3.5 years before getting married, let me tell you that I don’t really recommend it although it did help our careers.
Planning a wedding in a different state while simultaneously searching for a job out of state in a niche field, having difficult conversations about our future, scouting out apartments, selling your stuff, packing, moving out of state, planning a honeymoon, shopping for furniture/setting up a new place, and starting a new job with a long commute all in the same 6-8 month span was very stressful, especially combined with wedding, friend/family, job loss and other personal stressors.
I’m happy to finally be settled in now, but relocation has definitely taken a toll on our marriage and my career (as did getting used to living together and adjusting to each other’s schedules).
bees who survived a long distance engagement specifically (especially people in dual career marriages) – I’d love to hear what worked for you!