- 6 years ago
Sorry for the long post, I just really need to get this off my chest. First of all, let me say that there is only me and my sister in my family and we’re really close- we even own a house and live together this past 6 years. We’re also both really close with my mum.
However, a few things between my mum and sister are really starting to annoy me lately. My sister has spent the last 18months losing a lot of weight, almost 8 stone, which is incredible and I’m so proud of her. However, now her only topics of conversation are weight loss, what happened at the gym or the fat busting related programmes that she watches one after the other every evening. It’s just so frustrating, no matter how I try to guide the conversation, it always comes back to calories burned.
Also, she is single, and I’ve been in a relationship for just over a year. Naturally, I spend a lot of time with my SO now that a year ago I would have spent at home. My mum has this idea in her head that I’m “abandoning” my sister (she is 41 years old btw and I’m 30) and leaving her in the house every night. But, she goes out to the gym EVERY NIGHT, doesn’t come back to late and then talks about weight loss.
This weekend, we’re going to the cinema. I’ve booked it and paid for it. I was telling my mum on the phone that we are going even though I have no interest in the film we’re seeing and she started on at me that I should at least sound a bit excited to spend time with her. It’s so frustrating because I don’t see why my sister’s social calendar should be put on my shoulders, or why I should be made feel guilty.
I also just feel that mum is favouring her a bit more, aside from the fact that a few months ago she said that my sister has to be “her favourite” because I already have someone who puts me first (my BF), she also rings to ask if I’ve cleaned the house etc for when she is coming home after a weekend away and small things like this.
I just don’t know what to do bees. Any advice from you ladies as to how you would handle this?