(Closed) “Being married is not supposed to make you happy. It just makes you married.”

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Agree! the problems you have pre marriage will still be problems after you are married. Its not some magical thing that makes life better. Its the hard work, dedication and the choice you make every day to love that other person that can make you happy  – Marriage itself will not.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

so true!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree, to an extent. I think that the sentence is correct in that being married shouldn’t determine your happiness. However, if you are being healthy, self confident, having your own hobbies, etc. and then come home to someone who is constantly arguing, bringing you down, disrespecting you, then that romance no longer affects just a small part of your life..

ETA: totheislnds I definitely agree with you.

Getting married won’t solve any problems, miraculously fix your relationship, or turn you from sad to happy. I’m just saying that sometimes if someone “isn’t happy anymore” it’s not as easy as doing something for themselves and letting romance be a small part of their life. I am confusing myself now..

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Absolutely agree!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Yup, if things weren’t good before the wedding, don’t expect them to be any different after!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I agree completely! So many couples think that getting married will solve all of their problems. Well, it won’t! Just like it’s not about the wedding, it’s about the marriage!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

The deacon said this to us at pre-Cana.  Wise words.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with PP’s. The problems you have before marriage won’t magically disappear after marriage.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

totally agree!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Let me see:  Making things easier for us both makes me happier and getting married makes things easier and cheaper than not being married and trying to live a life together.  No longer wondering if I will get married again makes me happy, as a Christian woman no longer feeling like a repetitive fornicator will definitely make me happy. On a meaner and more immature side, in your face to a few jealous annoying people who don’t like me for unknown reason already makes me happy. HAHA  

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I like that. It is a great piece of advice! 🙂

I think a lot of people see marriage as the end of a journey, when really it’s the start of one.

Getting married in of itself won’t make you happy, but what you put in to the marriage will come back to you. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I read the title of this post and though “duh”, sadly tons of people don’t seem to understand that marriage doesn’t “fix” anything.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Totally agree!! I wish more people woudl realized that marriage doesn’t fix any problems. Being married is harder than being in a relationship, because now you have assumed that person’s problems for better or worse!

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