- 4 months ago
- Wedding: July 2019
My biggest pet peeve is people that are constantly in their phone talking/texting while im hanging out with them. I have this friend who I met here while living in Georgia. She is super sweet and truly a great person. But every time we hang out she is constantly in her phone no matter what we are doing. She has a teenage son and a teenager daughter so I understand the need to check in with your children but that literally is a 2 second phone call or text. She has a huge family and they all live near eachother so she is always chatting on the phone with her sister or some cousin or god knows who.
Trust me these are not emergency conversations. This takes place even when we are out to eat. Maybe I’m old school but when you are out to eat with someone to me bearing any emergencies it is extremely rude to be on tbe phone. It is the equivalent to saying I would rather be with the person I’m currently on tbe phone with then be hanging out with you or they are more important than you. She has literally picked up her phone in the middle of us eating and said “hello” without even saying excuse me I have to take this or whatever. My phone is away when in out with someone.
I know it is rude to point out someone else’s bad manners but this rude behavior is effecting our hangouts so how do I politely tell her I feel annoyed when she is constantly in her phone. I have politely tried the, “oh boy someone is popular tonight” approach while smiling hoping so will take the hint. I’m pretty sure I roll my eyes and with loudly without meaning to but like I said being on the phone while hanging out with someone is my biggest pet peeve and I think it is incredibly rude. This women isn’t young either she is 35 so you think she would be past the being addicted to her phone and realize how rude it is. So how do I nicely but firmly get the point across?
My fiance said maybe I need to be a little rude and firm to get the point since she doesn’t seem to pick up on it when I’m being nice. Maybe I should just be honest and say, “hey friend it really bothers and annoys me when you are constantly in your phone while we hangout it makes me feel like im not as important as the person on the other end or you would rather be out with them.” I’m sure we all have a friend/family member who does this or if you don’t you have had one in the past. So please offer up solutions. Please don’t say stop being her friend that’s not an option at this point like I said she really is a great friend and super sweet this one thing just really grates on my nerves and makes me feel super ragey.