Being petty. MOH wants different shoes. Pic!

posted 4 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1637 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all – you gave them the choice of 10 different shoes and when they settled on one, allowed them to choose one of two heel heights.  

Having said that, I’m not sure it’s worth the hassle of arguing with her – I doubt many people will notice she is wearing a different shoe to everyone else, so if it’s going to stop her being difficult on the day, I’d let her wear them.

Post # 3
2969 posts
Sugar bee

I was expecting to see clear heels LOL…those don’t look like stripper heels to me. I purchased my girl’s shoes for them and let them pick whatever they wanted as long as it was gold. Some of them chose flats, some chose heels…one chose 5 inch heels. As long as they felt comfortable, I was happy to buy it. Just to give you an idea, these were some of their shoes…


I say let her wear what she wants. FWIW, they don’t look that much different than the other pairs.

Post # 4
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

TBH all choices are very similar. No one will even notice except you (if they wearing same shoes are so important for you).

Post # 5
3734 posts
Sugar bee

No one is going to notice or care that they are very slightly different. 

Post # 6
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I don’t see the problem…the heels are still very alike. When you take photos from the front, you wouldn’t be able to tell the difference. Maid/Matron of Honor being the shortest just wants a little more height. I don’t think they look like stripper heels at all. 

Post # 7
291 posts
Helper bee

I agree with pp’s. They don’t look like stripper heels and they’re all similar. If she’s the shortest she probably just wants some more height. 

Post # 8
3146 posts
Sugar bee

I would not make this a thing bee. The shoes are fine and very similar to the other ones. 100% guarantee when you look back on your wedding photos in the years to come this will not be something you care one iota about. Would it be nice if your Maid/Matron of Honor went with the flow and wore the same shoes as everyone else? Yes. Is it worth making a thing over? Imo, 100% no!

I think it’s pre-wedding jitters causing you to fixate on this. I totally get that because I found myself similarly obsessing over some really random (and in retrospect utterly nonconsequential) things right before my wedding! 

Post # 9
781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

Was the proper time for her to do this right at the begnning?  Yes. 

But oh well, it is what it is…as wedding snafus go, this is quite minor.

Just let it go and enjoy your wedding day bee!  Even though you will know/notice, not 1 in 100 other people will.

Post # 10
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

They don’t look like stripper heels at all, and all three shoes are extremely similar. Nobody is going to notice the difference, very few people will be paying attention to the bridesmaid’s shoes anyway, let alone checking to see if they’re identical.

I seriously wouldn’t worry about this one bee, it’s not a big deal

Post # 11
4098 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

There’s no way as a guest I would notice that any of your girls had on different shoes. You have to look carefully in the picture, so I can only imagine that no one will tell the difference when they’re under a dress, split or not. And they definitely don’t look like stripper shoes.

Post # 12
14143 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sorry, but you are being a bridezilla, even if unintentionally. You have some discretion over the dress, in consultation for budget and style. But contrary to what some seem to think, other than perhaps suggesting a common color you properly have no jurisdiction over what your bridesmaids wear on their feet. It’s not a chorus line. Feet are extremely individual in terms of fit/comfort/taste. I’d drop this ridiculous demand of all of them. 

Post # 13
7964 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Definitely not a hill to die on. Be a friend first and a bride second and let her wear the shoes she’s most comfortable with.

Post # 14
716 posts
Busy bee

it’s your wedding and if this is how you want to spend your energy, go for it! Honestly, your Maid/Matron of Honor shouldn’t be arguing.

But, like other Bees here, I think you should choose your battles for fights that will be more important. No one is going to be noticing what shoes your wedding party is wearing when you are looking like a million bucks 🙂 

Post # 15
10038 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nobody is going to notice that.

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