Post # 31
I think the first two are a little more classy and more in style right now than the third, but you don’t have to wear them and no one’s going to notice.
I honestly don’t even remember what my bridesmaids wore three years ago and they were wearing tea length dresses. I’d chalk it up to last minute wedding stress.
Post # 32
I think you’re being unreasonable. Platform heels are generally more comfortable for those wanting the height without the extra stress on their toes. No one is going to give two shits if she wears a slightly different shoe.
You claim you’re not being a Bridezilla but I would have to disagree 🤷♀️
Post # 33
Wanting bridesmaids to wear matching shoes falls into bridezilla territory, in my book.
Feet are different, people have different bodies and often have different injuries/conditions. There are brands of shoes that I legit cannot wear without pain because they’re designed for a foot shaped differently than mine. There are brands of shoes that don’t come in a width suitable for my foot. Some people have bunions.
Nearly every bride I know has simply asked their bridesmaids to wear somehting like “a pink shoe” or “a gold shoe”.
Post # 34
There’s barely any sole in A and B. B looks like it would be incredibly uncomfortable. I would want my Maid/Matron of Honor, someone who is a dear friend so close that I want her next to me on my wedding day, to be able to wear shoes she feels comfortable in.
Post # 35
Just like with hair, makeup and nail polish, it’s not OK to dictate even if the bride were to offer to pay. The bottom line is shoes are a personal choice.
Post # 36
Since these are all very similar styles of shoes, I don’t think anyone will really notice that she has a platform. And if she’s self-conscious about her height and being shorter, why not let her wear them? She’ll feel more confident and feel she may look better in the photos. Isn’t it enough that they will have to wear the same dresses if you asked them to?
Post # 37
I do think the non-platform shoes are classier, but I also promise you that the only person who will notice or care is you. The difference is negligible, so let it ride.
Post # 38
To be perfectly honest, no one is going to pay attention to your bridesmaid’s shoes, particularly in a floor length dress. This is a battle I would not be interested in fighting. Let her wear whatever shoes she feels most comfortable in.
Post # 39
Thanks all, appreciate your opinions. Will tell her to pick what she feels most comfortable in. 🙂
Post # 40
1) No one is going to notice these differences.
2) I don’t think a bride should be dictating the style of shoe that her bridesmaids wear, other than a suggested color. Every body is different and what is comfortable on someone’s feet is a very individual thing. If you really care about your bridesmaids, you will allow them to pick what is most comfortable for them, and not dictate shoes based on how you want their feet to look, which honestly won’t even be noticeable in a long dress with or without a slit.
Post # 41
They’re nearly identical, and they’re wearing long dresses.
Post # 42
I can’t believe this. No one in her right mind would object to the SHOE her bridesmaid was wearing, because no one would fucking care. Plead insanity.
Post # 43
yeah, they’re fine. they’re dated, and out of fashion but if they make her happy, who cares? one less thing you need to worry about 🙂
editing to add: if you’ve bought the other ones for her, and she wants these new ones now, I think it’s perfectly reasonable to tell her she can purchase them herself.
Post # 44
Interested to see the cultural differences here – where I’m from, it’s common for the bride to select the exact shoe. In fact, I’ve been dropped from a wedding party because I can’t wear heels!
Post # 45
Wow, what a sad and ridiculous reason to be rejected by a good friend or close family member.