(Closed) Being pregnant before wedding. Caring too much about what people think?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

Lara_11:  We got pregnant before we got married as well, and I delivered prior to our wedding.  I know a few people thought we were getting married because I was pregnant, but honestly, who cares, some poeple will believe you, others won’t.  You can’t always please everyone or convince everyone.  Try to not let it bother you too much okay?  You’ll drive yourself crazy.

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just wanted to saying congratulations on both counts ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

Wow crazy stuff. Congrats on the engagement and the baby and the wedding three in one!! 

If it bothers you too much about being pregnant before the wedding there is a way to not feel like the baby is going to be a bastard if you deliver him/her before the wedding. My Fiance was conceived before his mom’s wedding but he came out after the wedding so he jokes saying “so….am I considered half a bastard?” Him saying that still cracks me up. Like dude….seriously? He’s the jokester in this relationship…figures haha.

But if you want to be slim to fit your dress depending how long your engagement will be I say wait til the baby is born to wed. It’ll give you time to heal and not feel like you have to be all heavy walking down the aisle ๐Ÿ™‚ if the baby is a girl or a boy please let us know! I want to know their baby names!! So cute! 

 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

I apologize if I offended anyone talking about bastard children. Especially Lara_11:  I never said anyone was a bastard. there is nothing to be ashamed of having a child before marriage. It happens all the time.  I was trying to refer to how my Fiance and his mom took care of this similar situation

About the dress situation I didn’t mean to say anything mean about being “slim”.  No malice towards it at all. I was just saying  because a lot of pregnant brides that have spoken to me say it was hard walking down the aisle with the baby in their belly. If they had a chance they’d wait til the baby was born to be back to their normal body sizes. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

there is nothing to be ashamed of having a child before marriage. Heck I think having children first off is a HUGE blessing since I may not be able to have children myself because of this medical condition I have. And I don’t want you lara11 to think im against you on this matter. I actually think about your situation and say how blessed you are to have someone as little as that in your tummy! Wow 4 months!! I’m so happy for you! Just breathe and take it all in!! I salute to your future husband in all this! He’s going to be a great father! And you Lara are going to be a great mother!! Congrats on your wedding again!

 

I really do wish the best for your baby. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Lara_11:  my family is very untraditional so the fact that I am engaged and NOT preggers has thrown everyone for a loop my youngest brother who was 12 at the time actually called me excited he was going to be an uncle again. I swear I almost felt guilty for not being pregnant. Lol. You do you. At the end of the day they can think what ever the hell they want. But what does it matter if you’re happy? ๐Ÿ˜Š

Post # 22
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you were a distant family member or distant friend the only thing I’d be thinking is: “Thats so great! … “Wait! Now I have to buy two gifts!” i say that just to let you know that you don’t know what people are thinking. anyone who judges you probably doesn’t need to be in your life anyway. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Lara_11:  screw other people. Opinions are like aholes, everyone has one. Congratulations on your engagement and your child! Here’s to a safe pregnancy and a very happy marriage! 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Hunter Valley

Congrats on your pregnaancy & engagement!! I think it would bother me if people were assuming you got engaged because you were pregnant because its sort of like implying your Fiance didn’t propose out of love….which would frustrate the hell out of me. But you know the truth so try not to let it bother you & everyone will be able to see the love at your wedding!!

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