(Closed) being the bigger person sucks

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Deep Breaths! I am so sorry about your friends bailed on you – that is just horrible, rude and downright selfish – the least they could have done was given you more notice. Its probably better they aren’t there, you need to surround yourself with people who WANT to celebrate your special day.

Just remember that your wedding is all about you and your (soon to be!) husband – It will be a beautiful day. Remember that you have planned all that you can and the rest of the day is just going to happen no matter what, Try not to worry about little things and just let go of control and enjoy every second of your day, if things get crazy take a few minutes and sneak away somewhere quiet and take a few minuts to just enjoy each others company and be swallowed up in the happiness of newlywedded bliss!

I hope things go smoothly – enjoy every second of your wedding day – dont let other people bring you down. Dont act πŸ™‚ just be happy that you are marrying the man of your dreams.

Good Luck! and Congratuatlions!

Post # 4
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m so sorry about your poopy experiences! No one deserves that πŸ™

With that being said, YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW!!! Congratulations and try not to let all that crap ruin your day. This is about you and your new husband and don’t let anyone take the happiness away from you that you so deserve.

Enjoy every single moment of your day. And post pics too. Like asap. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You are doing the right thing! and yes the big girl panties suck but you will look back and feel good about how you acted!

Congrats on tomorrow and I can’t wait to see your pictures!

Post # 6
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Hang in there!!!!!

I dealt with a TON of drama (mostly from my OWN family) and it created such hell during my wedding planning.

BUT – on the wedding day, I received the BEST advice which I CLUNG TO DEARLY – which was:  don’t worry about ONE detail – let other people worry about the decision.  The only thing you should do is focus on YOU and YOUR Fiance and the commitment you are about to make.  

People will ask you the most RANDOM questions tomorrow…. on my wedding day, my ‘textbook’ response was:  “Whatever you feel is best”, with a smile. πŸ™‚  Because at that point, it DIDN’T matter.

I’m sorry about your friends and the lack of support you desired – and tomorrow will be no different.  They will be consumed with their hair, makeup and looking good.  If you can ask someone to help you get ready (perhaps the person you trust most) that might be a good thing – just to have some companionship and someone to help you INTO your dress, etc.  Some of my favorite moments of getting ready where with my MUA – she was so sweet and wonderful and had NOTHING to do with my life other than the wedding.  It was the most calming thing and I didn’t have to think about how everyone else was worried about themselves. πŸ˜‰

re: the wedding day in general:  I planned and planned and tried to anticipate all I could. I’m sure you’ve done the same. And now it was time to just enjoy the day and not worry about any one elses ISSUES or insecurities.  

ENJOY tomorrow – it will go by quickly.  Savor each moment of love, anticiipation, and the well wishes of your friends and family.

If you experience is anything like mine – I bet DH’s whacky family will simmer down and you will wonder what happened to the whacky people and where these kind, happy people came from.  πŸ™‚

Post # 8
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

(((HUGS))) Have a beautiful day. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Sending happy thoughts and well wishes to you on your wedding day!!!!  ENJOY!!!!

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