- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I think that this is something to really ponder before moving forward, like say toward marriage, in your relationship. It is a personal choice and agreement in your relationship about who, if anyone, is going to be the breadwinner.
I have always known that I would most likely be at least on equal financial footing with my future spouse even before meeting my Fiance. I’ve always been independent and ambitious so making my own money is very important to me. I actually enjoy having the responsibility because I have confidence in my ability to succeed and do well.
I have a clear careerpath that I am and will work hard to stay on. My Fiance currently makes almost (about $4k less annually) as I do. However, his position does not have a lot of growth opportunity (nor is he interested in it) but he’s willing to stay in it until I am in a position professionally for him to start his own business. We’ll probably never be equal in income but in effort and commitment to our future, we’ll always be on equal footing.
Make sure that you speak honestly with your SO about his goals and think hard on whether your doubts in him financially truly overcome your love and commitment to each other.