Post # 1
So I am less traditional than my Maid/Matron of Honor and my aunts and would rather not have a bridal shower. I am uncomfortable with the concept and feel weird about having a party where the point is for people to give gifts.
However, I realize that as a bride, I don’t get a say and should be gracious about my Maid/Matron of Honor and Stepmother throwing me a shower. I love that they are so excited and really am happy to let them do it if they’d like to.
However, Fiance and I live in the tiniest apartment with a very small amount of space. We will not have a house by the time we get married so we’re really limited on space.
I know that I can just do a small registry of small things but a problem I will run into is that this could be one of two showers! I livee 1000 miles from my Maid/Matron of Honor, Stepmother and the rest of my side of the family. FI’s family lives here and I have a feeling that his sisters and SILs will throw me one as well. That’s WAY more stuff to have to register for and find a place to put!
Do you think that I can register for a very small amount of gifts (I can estimate the amount of ppl invited to the hometown shower) and then if/when I have a shower thrown here, I can add to the registry???
I promise that I am grateful for any and all gifts but sometimes logistics complicate things LOL 🙂
Post # 3
I think it would be ok to add to it if needed. You could use it to replace all your older stuff, maybe everything if you have a small place. Donate your old stuff, voila enough room. You could also spread the word that you don’t need tons of stuff and that shower presents aren’t necessary. People generally like that, but it might not net you any less. 🙂
If you DON’T add to it, you might end up with cash that you could use to buy something big that you may need, like a new bed/fancy mattress. That might be good too.
Post # 5
@Fizzy8: Replacing old stuff is a great idea! We definitely could upgrade on stuff. I also know how my family works (my aunts) and they will probably go in on something big together so that’ll help limit my amount of gifts.
I also like the idea of encouraging ppl not to bring gifts for the shower but I am not sure I’d be able to convince either side to do this. I’m sure even if it was put on the invites that “Their presence is gift enough” I would still end up with a lot of gifts and it’ll probably be stuff I don’t need/want. 😉
Post # 6
You DO “have a say.” It is not rude to decline them throwing you a shower and explain that you simply don’t have room for more things. What IS rude, is for your guests to arrive at the store and to not have enough things on the registry for them to buy!
Post # 7
@red_rose: I would make sure that wouldn’t happen. I will know on both sides who is invited and I’ll make sure to have enough gifts.
People throw showers for others all the time without them knowing. I was told by my Future Sister-In-Law that I don’t get a say and they just won’t tell me about it and it’ll be a surprise. THAT’s not happening so I said that they could throw me a shower if they want but I NEED to know about it and who is invited.