(Closed) Being told what you are doing is bad for your health….

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: If you see a good friend doing something that you know is bad for their health, you:
    Point it out - it's for their own good : (11 votes)
    8 %
    Say nothing - they are an adult and know their choice isn't the best : (112 votes)
    85 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I am soooooo strongly on your side of this topic. I could be your (overweight) friend. I am overweight and have been for a long time. I don’t eat right and I don’t exercise enough. Believe me, ignorance is NOT the problem. Anyone who doesn’t know soda is terrible for you has been living in a hole for the past 10 years and is honestly probably too stupid to have ever been your friend anyways— so she is aware. If a friend of mine ever tried to comment negatively on what I eat/drink, honestly it would be almost a friendship ender for me. Even if it was well intentioned, I do not feel like it would change my mind about anything, and it would just make me feel SUPER uncomfortable around that person from there on out. I would basically feel like they were judging me and watching my every move. I may be overweight, but I am also funny and kind and smart. I would hope that my friends love me for who I am, and while they may want health for me (as we all do for those we love), I would hope my weight isn’t an issue for THEM. If I felt like someone was watching over me like that, I would just choose not to hang out with them anymore.

    Post # 4
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s not like you’re telling your friend that some random combination of everyday spices has an unexpected side effect— “don’t mix rosemary and garlic with cinnamon or it makes you hallucinate”  (lol which of course it doesn’t, just giving an example).  She’s a grown-up and she knows that sodas are empty calories, and most likely even knows that diet sodas can prove detrimental to weight loss efforts.  No point in bringing it up, as it won’t give her that a-ha moment, and is only likely to cause hurt feelings and conflict.

    Post # 5
    2617 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    I drink energy drinks occasionally & there’s this lady at work who will tell me EVERY TIME how bad it is & all.  I do know that it isn’t great for me but I still don’t need her input.  Who is someone else to judge how long I want to live or what to do with my body.  I eat fast food & drink alcohol sometimes too.  Sue me!  Although I’m not overweight & pretty healthy last time I check, my situation is a bit different than your friend’s, but I’d still leave it be, especially if you value her feelings & your guys’ friendship.  She could feel offended & off put by this.  I’m sure she knows that soda isn’t good for her, but ONLY SHE CAN CHANGE FOR HERSELF!

    Post # 6
    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @oracle:  It kind of depends on the situation. I’m a smoker, so it’s not like I need someone to tell me that smoking is bad for me. I already know, and I’m fairly certain there aren’t many smokers out there that are blissfully unaware of the possible health risks.

    That being said, your friend probably knows that pop is bad for her and is likely contributing to/exacerbating her weight problem. Is your friend looking for diet tips? Trying to lose weight? Improve her overall health? If not, I would keep my mouth shut. Only if she directly asked for help or said something along the lines of “I just don’t understand how I gain weight so easily,” etc would I actually pipe up with some information.

    Post # 7
    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Personally, I wouldn’t bring it up with her.  Everyone knows that pop is just liquid sugar and is terrible for you, so I’m sure it isn’t going to be some sort of wake up call for her.

    On the other hand, I became aware a few years ago about GMOs and hormones used in our food.  I do think it’s important for people to know these kinds of things so they stop unknowingly consuming cancer causing products.  It isn’t really the type of thing people want to hear about, but I’ve found that people actually listen to you when you approach it in a conversational way instead of an interventional way.

    That said, it isn’t anyone’s place to tell someone they NEED to stop doing something.  I would be very offended if someone walked up to me (even a friend) and told me that the Coke I was drinking was going to kill me someday.

    Post # 8
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t say anything.  She is an adult and can make her own choices.  I’m sure she knows soda isn’t the healthiest option (I’m a big pop drinker and I certainly know I could choose healthier things).

    I’m sure your friend doesn’t ALWAYS choose the healthiest option available either.  Most people don’t.  That’s life.

    Post # 9
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m with you on this.  I, too, struggle with weight issues because of my thyroid.  I have a coworker that seems to be obsessed with what everyone eats, does, etc.  If I have a piece of brownie that someone brought in, she will tell me that’s why I don’t lose weight.  I keep telling her she has no idea about my health issues or anything regarding me personally to sit and judge/tell me what I should or shouldn’t be eating.

    Post # 10
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    First of all, I’m not sure your friend has enough information to conclude that your other friend is consuming too much coke. So she orders one at an occasional lunch–maybe this means she drinks soft drinks with every meal, maybe it means she only orders one when she’s eating out.

    Secondly, unless she lives under a rock she probably is aware that soft drinks don’t have a reputation as the healthiest drink. It sounds like your friend doesnt want to share information–she’s trying to give unwanted advice. I say stay out of it. 

    Edited to fix my terrible phone typing. 

    Post # 12
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yeah, I say it’s nunya business since everyone knows soda is bad for you.

    Post # 13
    1405 posts
    Bumble bee

    So the other friend is perfect?  Personally, I would be offended if someone said something about my soft drink choice.  They do not know what I choose when I am not with them.  I would throw a snarky comment back at them.  

    Post # 14
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If she has thyroid issues, she’s heard it all from her doctors for a long time.

    I’d let it go. It will only hurt the friendship if it is brought up!

    Post # 15
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it totally depends on the thing… You have to live under a rock to know that soda isn’t good for your health, but I’m ok with mentioning more “little known” facts. Ie I learned and was blown away that sunglasses expire. The cheap ones that are coated are only good for like 30 days of exposure to sunlight and I’ve been mentioning that to some people just as a “did you have any idea??” kind of thing. 

    Or I’ll sometimes mention things if I think someone is doing something they think is healthy… Which is possibly obnoxious… Like I have a friend that’s always on a diet. We go out for dinner and she orders vodka/water because it “has no calories”. I point out that while water is 0 caloies vodka actually does have ~100 calories/oz. 

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