Being walked down the aisle

posted 1 month ago in Ceremony
Post # 46
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Sugar bee

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@lauralaura123:  isn’t your dad in a religious cult? I assume he’s not walking you down the aisle under any circumstances. 

I had my mom walk me down the aisle because my dad was an absent father. In retrospect I wish I’d walked alone or together with my husband.

Post # 48
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Busy bee

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@lauralaura123:  

My then fiance and I walked together to altar, right after our parents walked. We loved it.

Post # 50
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Helper bee

My general advice is: Don’t do anything that makes you feel like property.

On the other hand, pardon me if I’m being dense, but I don’t really understand how having your mother walk you down the aisle supports the patriarchy….unless it would make you feel like a child, and the implication is that women are children until they get married….? I don’t know, that’s a stretch for me, but it isn’t my wedding. Do what feels comfortable.

Post # 51
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Sugar bee

I don’t think having your mom walk you down the aisle would be patriarchal at all. That said, I regret having my mom walk me down the aisle because I’ve since cut contact with her, and because she added a lot of unnecessary stress to my wedding. I felt compelled to include her in some way, but I wish I hadn’t because she was a source of constant stress leading up to the wedding and it mars how I remember what should have been a purely joyous day. 

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