- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
Alright, here’s the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth:
It’s been more than a year since we got married and I still haven’t written my thank-you notes.
And yes, oh yes, we feel absolutely terrible about it. I’m sure many of you are disgusted, BUT, this post is about making things right. We’re sure people might be disappointed or furious with us but I’m determined to do something.
So, I was thinking about it and I thought that perhaps a small letter might be a better idea. We could write about what has been going on in our lives (why they have been absolutely crazy busy) and then write a sincere thank you for the gift they gave. The reason I want to write a letter is because I feel like a standard thank-you note might not be enough to make up for the delay.
I would print out a letter, but then hand-write the “thanks for the gift” portion. If you were one of our poor neglected guests, would this bother you? If we included photos from the past year, would it make you more upset?
I feel like SOMETHING is better than NOTHING, so I’m trying to understand what I can do. I’d like to think that folks would be happy to receive an update and a thank you for their gifts, knowing that they have been well appreciated, but I’m not sure.
Go ahead – let me have it (your opinion that is.). *braces for impact*
P.S. -if you’re wondering WHY, the answer is that our life hasn’t been the rosiest so we’ve been bombarded with personal disaster after personal disaster. Once they were all over, it had been so long that the “shame spiral” had taken hold – my perfectionism got the best of me and I didn’t know how to write a thank you that needed to be preceeded by a hundred apologies for being tardy.
Edited to clarify: I didn’t imagine the letter containing a lot of excuses or disasters in it – I was wanting to write a letter with a focus on the good things that have happened to us. It would be clear from reading it that we’ve had a lot going on, but I wasn’t going to dwell on the negative. Also, the majority of the recipients are friends of my parents who we don’t really know/aren’t close to. I was able to get thank you cards out to our very close friends soon after the wedding.