(Closed) I didn’t write thank you notes. There, I said it.

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

If I was a guest I’d appreciate something, even if it was late. Go ahead and get it done!

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

Given the circumstances I think your idea is nice.  

Post # 5
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, go ahead and do it! I didn’t do thank you notes after my graduation open house, and I still feel awful about it. Better to go ahead and bite the bullet!

Post # 6
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think a letter’s a good idea – better late than never! Especially given your circumstances, I’m sure people will understand ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
413 posts
Helper bee

I agree, just send something!  I attended a cousin’s wedding in November of 2009 and have yet to receive a Thank You.  It’s not so much that I want the note but since I shipped it from the registry, I want to make sure they actually received it!  I asked his mom and she ignored my email.  So did I pay Target $50 for nothing?  Happens every day.  Send your notes ๐Ÿ™‚  Good for you for taking ownership ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
1231 posts
Bumble bee

I think that would be nice. I would appreciate gettting a letter with a hand written personal note about the gift. Very nice idea ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would put together an entire article. Like, “A year in the life of Mr. & Mrs. Smith”  Then at least it would be super cute and you could go all out, so that it had a little more pizazz ๐Ÿ™‚ Then you could include personal notes with it if you wanted.

Post # 10
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

::HUGS:: I too haven’t done my thank you  notes yet. Better late than never.

Post # 11
424 posts
Helper bee

I think that’s a great idea!  They will definitely appreciate it.

Post # 12
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think at this point you definitely can’t do a generic “Dear Guest, thank you for the lovely gift” type of letter but a personalized thank you is acceptable. And I think the detailed letter updating everyone on your lives is a nice idea, but slightly inappropriate because it will look like you’re making excuses for being so tardy. Like “We had so many disastrous things happen to us that are more important than your (guest) disastrous events and that’s why we are justified in not writing Thank You notes”. I would just write the note ASAP and send them out, no apology or explanation. Then if you want to do the letter maybe around the holidays that would be fine.

Post # 13
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not crazy about the letter idea but thats just me. I wont be sending out thank you notes either, atleast not to everybody. In my circles its normal to call each person  a few days after the big day and thank them in person rather than in a note. So I will be doing that. I actually dread calling though, it can be so awkward getting off the phone. Ugh

Post # 14
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think a note is a great idea. I would much rather receive a thank you note years later with an explanation, than nothing at all. I say just get them done and off your mind. Otherwise I fear you’ll feel guilty forever, not to mention the fact that some people you care about might currently be hurt by your silence.


Post # 15
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Always better late than never. If you send it late, then it would be “Well, it was late but at least they did it!” otherwise it’s “Can you believe the nerve they didn’t even send a thank you card? What the heck were they doing?!”

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