(Closed) Believe in Soulmates?

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Post # 47
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@amyinbrisbane:  Yeah I think waiting around for that special person is a bad idea, and expecting to know right away that they are your soulmate is incorrect, because you may not know right away. It may take days, weeks, months or even years, before you know that they are ‘The One’. But when you know you know and no one can take that away 🙂

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

There was a board on this the other day:

Do you believe in "soulmates" or "the one"?

I absolutely believe in soul mates. There is nothing wrong with believing that – and there is nothing wrong with not believing it. 

My SO and I strongly believe we’re soul mates, because quite honestly it was the only thing to describe what happened to us when we met. It was exactly what you’re told – that you ‘fall in love at first sight’ that it’s ‘just different’ and you ‘just know’. Completely true. This has been the most rewarding relationship I’ve ever been in – it’s the most connected I’ve ever been. 

Does that mean it doesn’t come without hard work – hell no! We’re both still individuals that are going to change. But our belief is that we found each other for a reason and that we’re meant to spend our lives together.

Soul mates by definition of the word means a connection on a deeper level – souls connecting – not just our body and mind. You get each other on a deeper level. 

I believe that I have ‘soul mates’ for friends too – you’re kindred spirits. 

But there is a deeper level of soul mate – someone that is your soul mate in life – that connects with you on all levels of your being – and this person is ‘the one’. 

You have to work at anything to keep it – and if you lose touch with yourself, and who you are, and who you are together… well of course you risk losing what you have. 

If your soul mate died, it doesnt mean you won’t ever find love again…but I believe that ‘one’ will be the greatest love of your life, and you won’t find that ever again.  

Post # 50
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Absolutely not. I think I could be just as happy with another person but I just happened to find DH first.

Post # 51
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissBethany5:  I didn’t used to believe in soulmates, but after that changed after I met my husband. 

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I don’t believe in soul mates (you think I would). I don’t call my Fiance my soulmate. My sister called him my soul mate once and I rolled my eyes and surprised myself. I believe there are many people who could be wonderful for eachother. I believe my Fiance is the Great Love of my Life. Does that make sense? I feel like the word (soulmate) gets tossed around a lot. 

My Fiance is my Partner. He is my Mate. My Man. My King. My Confidant and Companion. 

 

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

That’s so funny because I believe in Fate, Destiny and Magic. I belueve Fiance was a gift sent to me by the Universe. He is definitely the Ying to my Yang. I have never felt so entirely “ME” before him. But Soulmate…..that is such an impossibly tall order

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Jacqui90:  thanks!  I totally believe it was meant to be since the beginning of time. I’m okay with the naysayers, but I know what my heart screamed from the moment I saw him.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

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@RockStar33:  I agree!!

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@RockStar33:  Exactly. Couldn’t agree with you more!

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissBethany5:  Just wanted to shared this quote! “People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror; the person who shows you everything that is holding you back.”

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Lovemelovemyhorses:  I agree with this. Someone can become your “soul mate” (and I use the term very lightly.. definitely not literally) by virtue of the fact that you have become a couple and grown together…kind of like a tree growing too close to a fence. That’s the only kind of soul mate I believe in, and I think that’s what nearly all relationships are like, although people were prefer to believe that it was something pre-ordained because it’s a nice romantic idea. 

I totally agree with 

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@RockStar33:  that it’s an unhealthy thought.. as is “true love” and “love at first sight.” I think fairy tales and romance novels/movies have really done [mainly but not exclusively] women a disservice. I’ve seen far too many people have crazy expectations because of this kind of stuff. 

 

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think people are confused about the definition of soulmate and where the idea actually came from.

doesnt mean I don’t believe in a deep romantic love, I just would never use the word soulmate.  

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t believe in soulmates – mainly because they are so hard to define and everyone’s definition would be slightly different. I do believe though that my DH and I are meant to be together – otherwise, we wouldn’t be!

Post # 61
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I absolutely do not believe in “soulmates” in any sense of the word. For myself, I firmly believe that if I had been born in another part of the world, I would have met someone, fallen in love and had a good family and a good life. I love my DH dearly, and I choose no one over him, and we have been together many years, but that doesn’t mean that if circumstances had been such that I had never met him that I would not have had a loving relationship and a fulfilling life.

And it is ironic that so many people seem to believe in “soulmates”, yet about half of all marriages end in divorce. Either people knew full well that they were not marrying the person they were “meant” to be with, or they were wrong. 

I believe that many people have connections to other people based on immediate physical attraction, similar life views, personality characteristics, etc. Those things are often imprinted by one’s upbringing before most of us can remember. It is these things that make us feel like we can trust some people and not others, and these are the things that make us more likely to get along with one kind of person than another. But there is nothing supernatural about any of that, IMO. 

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