Hi @Blackie: well said…
I couldn’t agree more.
Ya sometimes it sucks to know that the 25 Year old inside my head, is less than half the person the rest of me is (I’m over 50… if I’m truly honest, I’m pushing 60.. YIKES… how did that happen?)
BUT then you are sooo right.
I too read / replied in that topic… I remember how it felt to be much much younger. And all the fretting we did trying to “read” stuff into a situation…
Do we kiss enough – Does he like it – Am I as good as his last Girlfriend – Do we have Sex enough – too much. Do I please him – What can I do better in the Bedroom – What can I do better outside of the Bedroom. Does he love me… truly love me.
Ack… self-doubt. It is enough to give a girl a major headache !!
And a HUGE time waster !!
My body ain’t what it used to be… but at the same time, I don’t fret about it sooo much either
Lol, IF ONLY I had this knowledge way back when
When I was in my 20s and 30s, and about 130 lbs, and spent all that wasted effort on self-criticism and thinking that I looked fat !!
Seriously… If ONLY I could rewind… I’d slap that young gal upside the head and say… “Look you crazy nutbar… you have an amazing body… and this is well as good as it gets… so throw on that bikini… and get to H3LL out there !!”
Today, I care maybe in someways a lot less about how my body looks (with age comes reality)… BUT a lot more now about how well that body is doing… and IF it can carry me along for another 30 or 40 years
On the same note, it is super nice to have found love again at this point in my life…
Mr TTR loves me for me… and the person I am on the inside… so ALL my good qualities… my compassion, my intelligence etc.
He thinks I’m HOT because of WHO I am FULL PACKAGE, not just the fact that I big boobs etc.
And we are getting it on (or thinking about it)… we don’t envision / dwell on the imperfections that time has brought to our bodies…
We just focus on the fact that we love each other… and how much we want to be together (be that sex, or just the fact that we can’t seem to have enough of each other in our lives)
As he’s told me, who too learned this life lesson the hard way. Always falling for girls who looked amazing… (lol men can be sooo shallow)… only later to have his heart broken when he discovered that they weren’t necessarily a good match for him, because they weren’t on the same wave length about life and what really was important. (YES the hot babe can not only be high maintenance and a lot of work… but they also can be a demanding B!tch… and in the end TOO MUCH DRAMA… His words)
I truly am lovin this part of my life… it feels soooo amazing to have found the love of my life when I truly can appreciate him (BECAUSE of the roads I’ve travelled down before) and the same can be said for his appreciation of me.
We may not have 25 years infront of us as a couple… but we sure as heck are gonna make the most of what we do have… because it is infinitely better this time round !!