(Closed) Besides hubby, do you plan on having anyone else assist when baby arrives?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sure my mom and Mother-In-Law will both want to come. My Mother-In-Law doesn’t work, but my mom does and might not be able to take off work. I don’t really want “help” per se, but I want them to meet the baby. Both our families live five hours away. But I do want DH and I to have some private bonding time with baby first.

Post # 4
5540 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

My mom and daddy will be there and welcome to stay with us, mil and fil are welcome to stay, in hotel, and not come over.more than every other day. 

Post # 5
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’ll see how it goes. I might have my mom around for a couple of days as we adjust. DH’s parents are just ten minutes away so I imagine we’ll see them a lot in the first few weeks but I don’t think they’ll be all that helpful.

Post # 6
1811 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sure my mom, sister, Mother-In-Law, Step Mother-In-Law, and SIL will all be around to help (maybe a little more than we will need!)


Post # 7
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husband is a paramedic and wants to deliver our baby (if we ever get pregnant).  I don’t know if anyone else will be in there with me…

Post # 8
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husband had to go work up north, so my mom stayed with me for about a week to help with cleaning and cooking. I had a cesarean so that was really helpful.

Post # 9
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My husband, my mom and my sister will definitely all be present for the birth. I also live 5 min. from my mom and sister (still will be living at home hopefully at the time we have a baby) and I know they will be around everyday. We are timing the birth for the summer, and then we are actually moving with a newborn to a different state, so I’m going to need A LOT of [free] help.

Post # 10
1577 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think so, although my mom is being furloughed for a couple days of the week right around when I am due, so she may stop by often.

Post # 11
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I only want DH in the delivery room and don’t expect anyone to come to the house.

Post # 12
2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I want my mum at the delivery with me as well as my DH. My ILs live on the other side of the country so I am sure they’ll fly over to meet our bub but I can’t handle the idea of having Mother-In-Law in with me (even thou I am sure she would love to be there) because she can be stressy (and I don’t wanna be stressed during) AND I can’t handle the idea of looking her in the face knowing she’s seen my business end.

The reason I need mum there is she is completely no nonsense and she’ll keep me strong even if I wanna crack – DH reckons he is gonna hate seeing me in pain so I am not sure how much help he’ll be if I am like give me drugs he’ll be like ok. At least I know mum has done in twice and med free so she gets it – and will make sure I am sure. If I need to get a c-section then obviously my DH will be there because it is his baby too and he deserves to be in the OR for the first moments – I’ve been watching One Born Every Minute and there have been a few where the girl chose her mum to be in there rather than the father and my heart broke for them.

ETA: not currently pg but I have spoken about this with DH and mum already. Hopefully soon we’ll be discussing this in more than a hypothetical way 🙂

Post # 13
569 posts
Busy bee

I have this dream that it’s just my DH and I at the hospital. We have the baby and hours later let other people know. Just because I want that time to ourselves and don’t want people coming in and seeing if we are “having the baby yet” lol. It was so crazy when my cousin had the baby and the whole family was in the waiting room. TYhen right after birth we all came in. Chaos! lol

But we are living with my DH’s mom, so…not sure how that will go. 

Post # 14
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

MY DH is taking 2 weeks off work to be home with us and my mom recently told me she plans to take the 2 weeks following him returning to work to help me out. It will be nice, but hopefully by the time DH goes back I have a good handle on it so I can just spend time with my mom more than need her for things. 

When it comes to the hospital, I will honestly probably ask my mom to be there. I want her to stay near my head and stuff but I was really sick a few years ago and having my mom over made me feel so much better. There’s just something about it, a mom never loses the ability to make her child feel better no matter how old so I think having her there will help me to better cope with everything. I’ve yet to ask her though.

Post # 15
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mum wants to come and be there and so does my DAD!  (Ahh!)  I think I would prefer just DH.  I would love to have doula, but that is not really in the budget.

Post # 16
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I want my wife and Mom there. When I’m in early labour at home, I’m hoping my best friend can come over (she’s a Mom and had a home birth). We are planning to birth with midwives in the birthing wing at BC Women’s hospital and you’re only allowed two attendants. I wish we could have a home birth, but we live in a small apartment and don’t have a great relationship with our landlord who lives on the top floor. 

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