(Closed) Bespectacled bride? Or blind-ish bride?

posted 5 years ago in Beauty
Post # 16
2171 posts
Buzzing bee

wear your glasses!!!! I couldn’t imagine not being able to see everyone and everything on my special day!!! You dont want to work so hard planning to not be able to enjoy it. Its part of who you are and you can work it into your wedding look. I would just talk to your mom and say you have really thought about her concerns but want to see everything and will be wearing them. You respect her opinion and hopes she respects your decision to be able to see on your wedding day. 

Of course you can get some photos without them, IF YOU WANT! I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around her asking/pushing you to do this. Crazy! 

Post # 17
2995 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

When is your next eye exam scheduled for, Bee? I actually had one while engaged, so I bought “bridal” frames (then was stuck wearing them everyday for two years, haha).


I entrusted my glasses with my Maid/Matron of Honor for all of the non-ceremony photos, so there are plenty of glasses-free pictures as well. But it was really important to me that I see Darling Husband clearly as he recited his vows, cried, etc. 

Post # 18
2180 posts
Buzzing bee

If you like how you look in them, definitely wear them! Not worth squinting and not even being able to see your guests and decorations properly, or suffering a nasty tension headache. If you have the chance, you could even get new frames for occasion that might better suit your dress/makeup/what have you.

As for the fear of your photos looking ‘dated’: have you seen wedding photos? Unless you’re doing a very strict historical reenactment and using vintage film and equipment, shit will look dated. I bet you can tell a 1970’s wedding from a 1980’s wedding from an early 2000’s wedding, and I guarantee you the looks we think of as “timeless” now are going to go the way of mutton sleeves and pastel tuxedos before you know it. You will not look at your wedding photos ten years from now and think “Gee, this looks like a 2025 wedding!” And that’s the purpose of those photos anyway–to capture a moment in time.

Post # 25
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m blind as a bat without my contact lenses and glasses.  Go try contact lenses again.  There are some for daily use,  So you get just a few pairs and wear them few weeks before the wedding to try and to get used to.  And you will not have to worry about your makeup,  glasses and all that stuff on your special day. 

Post # 27
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

First and foremost, I’ll say that if you like how you look in glasses-rock them! I always think it’s kind of odd when people don’t look like themselves in wedding pictures (normally wear glasses but then don’t, naturally very pale but super tan for wedding, tons of makeup when normally bare faced, etc.) 

If you want to experiment, though, I’m going to second the vote for Acuvue Oasys contacts. I have SEVERE dry eye that medication has not been able to help. My old contacts made it much worse, to the point that I probably looked high and/or exhausted all the time because my eyes were so red. I thought I was going to have to stop wearing contacts. Then they came out with the acuvue oasys for astigmatisms (which I also have- joy!) and I gave those a shot and I LOVE them. I wear them for 17-18 hours a day no problems.

Post # 28
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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JuliaCanter:  I am just like you – nearsighted and can’t see that far in front of me. Not just words but faces are blurry. I also tried numerous contacts and they just didn’t work. I have been wearing my glasses for the past 20 years. I am use to them and everyone who knows me knows I wear them. When it cam closer to my wedding almost everyone said I should go without them and get contacts.

I thought about it but decided against it as I am me with my glasses – not without them. I did tell everyone that I would take them off during some pictures  – that didn’t happen, lol. I was so wrapped up with what was going on that I didn’t even think to take them off, so all my pictures have me with my glasses.

I say wear your glasses, if you want to take them off for some pictures then do so. If you forget to, it won’t be the end of the world. I’d rather have pictures of me wearing my glasses then of me squinting (bc that’s what happens when I can’t see) and I’d rather not have a headache from not being able to see.

Post # 29
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You can strike a balance by realizing that you don’t need to. Don’t let your mom push you around. Wear your glasses, because it’s what you want to do. Compromise can be a few pics where you take them off for a sec (not two full sets, that’s ridiculous). The only person you need to think about seeing you walk down the aisle is FI!

Post # 30
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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JuliaCanter:  If you generally wear glasses all the time, then I would say wear them! My fiancé wears glasses all the time and when I see him without them, it kind of doesn’t really look like “him”, you know? I would be totally baffled if he didn’t wear them at our wedding. Be yourself! 🙂

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